Your Needs Are Important Too!


I have used this analogy before. I have had to remind myself of the concept many times. If I don’t take care of me, then I have nothing to offer others. If I volunteer myself to be used or abused, then my self esteem must be low.

Healthy people do not have to worry about what to do to keep others from taking advantage of them, they instinctively know what they must do. Healthy people know that they must take care of themselves first, then help others, if they are capable of helping them without causing harm to themselves and family.

The Bible also tells us to take care of our families first, then help others if we are able.

The Serenity Prayer teaches me to accept the things that I cannot change, and to change what I can, and my program helps me to learn the wisdom to know the difference.

The 12 Steps teach me that I am powerless over people, places, and things.  I am only responsible for my own thoughts, feelings, and actions….no one elses. Knowing that helps me to keep my sobriety and serenity.

Recovery and working the steps, have taught me that… I have a choice….and I never have to give up me to be loved by you! God loves me…just as I am…He loves me…and He wants me to take care of me…then if He wants me to help others…He will provide me the means to do it.   

July 28, 2014 – Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Originally posted on Readings in Recovery - and other readings:

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Monday, July 28, 2014
AA Thought for the Day
To continue the paraphrase of the psalm: “The judgments of the twelve steps are true and righteous altogether. More to be desired are they than whiskey, yea, than much fine whiskey, sweeter also than wine. Moreover, by them are alcoholics warned and in keeping of them there is great reward. Who can understand our alcoholism? Cleanse us from secret faults. Keep us from presumptuous resentments. Let them not have dominion over us. Then shall we be upright and free of the great transgression.”

Am I resolved that liquor will never again have dominion over me?

Meditation for the Day
God can be your shield. Then no problems of the world can harm you. Between you and all scorn and indignity from others is your trust in God, like a shining shield. Nothing can then have the…

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July 28, 2014 – Step by Step

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Monday, July 28, 2014
Today, we remind ourselves why abstaining from drinking is not enough in recovery. Addiction in general and alcoholism specifically are three-level diseases – physical, emotional, and spiritual. While not drinking is most certainly the beginning, it is not the end because abstaining will improve the physical ravages of drinking only but not the psychological and spiritual damage drinking inflicts. It is for treatment of the emotional and spiritual that we have AA; here, we are given the tools to undo the damage we have done and, when repair isn’t possible, how to accept our mistakes, forgive ourselves even when no one else does and move ahead toward sobriety. Without that treatment and when we depend solely on abstinence, we are less sober and more like a dry drunk. Today, I accept that not drinking by itself is not sufficient to attain…

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My Husband, The Light of my Life

My husband, “the light of my life.”

He is 58 and I am 60. God really does know what He is doing. We are able to be at home together with my “forced retirement”.

At first, I felt guilty, because I had always worked since I was 12. I was brought up to believe, that if I wanted something that I had to work for it.

Now, God wants me to care for my husband, obviously because that is where I am, for now, and I love it. Not the part about him being sick but the part about having him to share my life. In my program for living, and the twelve steps, I have learned to “accept life on life’s terms”, and so I am content with whatever God has given me. 

I am so grateful for what God has given me, and for what He has taken away too–the chaos, insanity, and the loneliness. In its place God has given me serenity, peace, strength, and solace.  

I thank God everyday for my 27 years in recovery, because without it I would not be doing as well on this “acceptance” thing. I accept the fact that I am NOT God, and that my husband is in God’s hands.  I am grateful for every minute that He gives me with him until God calls him home.

The old me would be living in “self pity” and crying and whining around about how God made me wait so long for my hubby, and the fact that he is sick. I only saw the “bad” in my life.

Someone coined it, a “New Pair of Glasses”, they wrote a book about it. I have not thought about that book in a long while. I will have to get it out and look at it again.

I am looking through a new pair of glasses, and I am seeing what is “right” with my life instead of always looking for what is “wrong” in my life. It makes for a lot more peace and serenity.

Excellent book for anyone, even if you are not in Recovery. 

God Wants You To Know….

God wants you to know, that the weight you carry on your shoulders is much too heavy for one human being. Give some of that weight where it belongs, – to God, and have faith that what happens is for the best, whether you understand it or not.

“I’m only one,

But still I am one.

I cannot do everything,
…But still I can do something;
And because I cannot do everything,
I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.” -Anonymous

Women are like Tea Bags to see how strong we are just put us in hot water.

“Be still when you have nothing to say; when genuine passion moves you, say what you’ve got to say, and say it hot.”~~D. H. Lawrence

“In matters of principle, stand like a rock.” ~~Thomas Jefferson

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”~~Albert Einstein

“While writing the story of your life, don’t let anyone else hold your pen.”

“Whatever you are, be a good one.”~~Abraham Lincoln

“Sometimes People Don’t Want To Hear The Truth Because It Destroys Their Illusions.”~~Neitzsche

Blowing someone else’s candle out doesn’t make yours burn any brighter.

Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way you’re right.

“For those who understand, no explanation is needed. For those who do not understand, no explanation is possible.”

God is with us~every step of the way

Serenity Prayer = Sobriety = Sanity = Serenity


God grant me the SERENITY to
accept the things I cannot change;
COURAGE to change the things I can;
and WISDOM to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;

taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it:

Trusting that He will make all things
right if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him forever in the next.  Amen

The Serenity Prayer has been an important part of me keeping me sober, serene, and sane. I spent a lot of years trying to change other people, and when I could not, I got really pissed off!

I can apply the prayer to everything and everybody in my life, including myself. I never lived up to others expectations of me, and they never lived up to my expectations of them. 

Lately, I have really had to remind myself that I am powerless over people, places, and things. God does not want me to just sit back and do nothing. He wants for me to do the best that I can with what He has given me.  If He did not want me to have the things that I have, He would not have given them to me.

America is under attack from “inside” and from “outside” evil forces. I get so discouraged because I am unemployed and broke as hell. I have always had a job. I was not too good to take less pay or part time work. I always had a job, even if it was as someone’s maid. I worked my ass off and graduated with a bachelor degree, so that I could get good employment to take care of me and my family. I was so full of hope in 2008 (before obama). I never asked to be rich, just to have enough to pay for housing, food–the necessities of life, but because of the socialists and communists sucking our resources dry and obama killing jobs–I pretty much have given up hope on finding employment now.

So, pretty much I live my life, “Day by Day”, and praying for God to help me afford to care for myself and my disabled husband (who by the way worked all his life and paid into our system). We have always worked for what we “needed”, and never expected others to support us. If not for family, we would be homeless and hungry!


It pissed the hell out of me that the communist/demon-rats are bringing in Illegals and Terrorists to intentionally overwhelm our system.

If they would stop funding the Terrorists and Illegals with our taxpayers money, then they could afford to take care of our Legal Americans who paid into the system all their life’s. Social Security is NOT an Entitlement, we paid for it!

I pray to God that America can survive the socialist,communist, islamic, illegal INVASION of our country!!! I know that I am doing everything in my power to help save her, and I will continue to. It all goes back to the serenity prayer. 


Budding White Rose – Ajaytao

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Along with the beauty of the rose we have to bear the thorns.

Originally posted on Ajaytao 2010:

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Budding White Rose – Ajaytao

A Little Budding Rose 

It was a little budding rose,
Round like a fairy globe,
And shyly did its leaves unclose
Hid in their mossy robe,
But sweet was the slight and spicy smell
It breathed from its heart invisible.

The rose is blasted, withered, blighted,
Its root has felt a worm,
And like a heart beloved and slighted,
Failed, faded, shrunk its form.
Bud of beauty, bonnie flower,
I stole thee from thy natal bower.

I was the worm that withered thee,
Thy tears of dew all fell for me;
Leaf and stalk and rose are gone,
Exile earth they died upon.
Yes, that last breath of balmy scent
With alien breezes sadly blent!

Emily Bronte
Budding White Rose - Ajaytao
Budding White Rose – Ajaytao

I see a Lilly on thy brow,
With anguish moist and fever dew
And on thy cheek a fading rose
Fast withereth too

I met…

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