Do you want “Good” in your life? Now, who would not, we think to ourselves.
Choices….if you want “Good” to increase…do and say good things…and …notice what someone does right. Notice what is Right and it increases…it Grows.
I promise if you look at others and notice their good qualities and praise them for it instead of only noticing the bad qualities that we all have…more good. I grew up with alcoholism along with negativity, depression, anger, shame, blaming, and making excuses for their bad choices. I choose “Good”, I choose GOD.
If I focus on others negative all the time and never notice what they do right or focus on their flaws, then I make me and them both miserable. When I let them know their “Good” qualities and thank them for the “Good” things that they do or say to me, then we both feel better, and we feel love, wanted, needed.
Please, try to not always just complain, criticize, or blame others all the time. It helps no one! In my opinion, anger, resentment, and all other negative things in our life are the “Weeds” in our garden and the twelve steps are the inventory of “good” and “bad”. BALANCE one of my favorite words. A BALANCE sheet of yourself. Then move on to the Fifth Step.
Focus on others good and make it a point to let them know that you appreciate it. Focus on the Solution instead of the Problem. Help NOT Hurt. “Bloom where you are planted.”
One of my favorite vacation pics of my Dad, Louis Mancill, my sister, Phyllis and Danny Hyden and Daniel and Stefanie Hyden, Guadalupe River, New Braunfels, Texas, about 1980
Gruene Historical District is located within the city limits of New Braunfels. Founded by the sons of settlers Ernst and Antoinette Gruene, the community had a bank, post office, school, general store, lumberyard, gristmill, dance hall, and cotton gin. It also had access to two railways for shipping cotton bales. Its most famous attribute was the dance hall, a family activity in those days. Due to the failure of the cotton crop from boll weevils, and the failure of the banks after 1929, commercial activity slowed to a crawl. This village is now a Nationally Registered Historic District where one can dine in the ruins of the original gristmill or enjoy live music at Gruene Hall. The community may…
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I can hardly believe that it has been thirty one years ago today, that I began my road to happy destiny in Al-Anon. I dragged into my first meeting depressed, pissed, suicidal, homicidal, full of self pity and resentments toward others. I came to “get him sober” yet I found out that I had no power over him, and that I was the only one that I had any power over. Of course, I did not believe them. I thought, “But you don’t know me”. He will stop for me. I am younger than him, sexy, and he really loves me.
Long story short, he did not stop for me, but I found what I needed for me…serenity, peace, and love. I found people that “loved me, wanted me, and needed me” for free.
Nine months going to Al-Anon and still being miserable and doing all of the DON’Ts instead of the DO’s, my sponsor recommended that I go to AA, and find out more about alcoholism. I continued to drink at my husband, because I thought, “I am not the alcoholic…he is”. I agreed that I might check it out.
After three years of my attending meetings and working my steps with my sponsor, I finally had had enough of his drunkenness and chaos. So, I chose to divorce him, because I could not live in the insanity anymore. I was beginning to feel better and I decided that I wanted recovery even if he did not. I had spent my whole life thinking of others, trying to help others, and in the process, I did not lose me, because you have to have an “identity” in order to lose one, and I had never had one. I found out that I was Co-Dependent. I read up on Co-Dependency and I went to therapy too.
Let it begin with me.When anyone anywhere reaches out for help, we want the hand of Al-Anon and Ala-Teen to be there.
I celebrated thirty years of sobriety and serenity in January 2017. God has used me for thirty years to “carry the message of recovery” to many others. I share my recovery to those that “want” it, because we can only help those that “want” recovery and are “willing to go to any lengths” to achieve sobriety and serenity. Very few have chosen to stay sober come hell or high water, no matter what, because we have “free will”, and they are looking for an “easier, softer way”. I chose the “harder, right way”.
“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” – Genesis 1:1
Where is your spot? Where is that place that you go and no matter how crazy and chaotic your life has been, that place that will bring you peace and help you to center?
Some people find that place in the mountains. The awesome grandeur of majestic mountains shows God’s power and creativity and it reminds us that the problems of earth can certainly be handled by God.
Some find a sense of peace and perspective in when they are near the ocean. Again the massive body of water and the consistency of the tide and waves brings peace and comfort.
Some others enjoy a meadow setting; still others love the varied creativity of the woods.
Regardless of where the spot is where you feel calmed and closer to God, it is a place where you can appreciate God’s creation… His creativity, His power, His strength and His love. Being in this spot in creation gives you a God moment.
My serenity spot’s are all of those above. I especially love waterfalls and the woods. I love my jungle. I love trees. My backyard is my jungle, and it is not perfect, but it is my gift from God. There are weeds, and roses have thorns, but I focus on what I have instead of what I don’t have today. I can find peace and serenity in the bird’s singing and all of the greenery cropping up in the Springtime, my favorite time of year. It represents ‘New Life” to me.
Nature is the art of God. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Third Step Prayer. It reminds me that I have a new employer…God…and that He will keep me safe if I try to help his children…to find their way back to Him. All I have to do is to “share my experience, my strength, and my hope…and He will do the rest.
There is nothing like a garden to get my juices flowing. During the past few weeks I have ignored my blog because of extenuating circumstances. Many of you know that I belong to a Lions Club, and two weeks ago Lions International celebrated their 100th birthday with a convention in Chicago. At the last-minute I […]
It is a really sad day in America when those who try to feed our hungry children are persecuted. Down is up, and Evil and Selfishness are up, and are perceived as Good. It tells us in the Bible, that we are supposed to take care of our own First, then try to help others! In America there are those who have tried to help feed the homeless, and they have been fined and threatened with jail, now that is just Un-American and Un-Christian!! I thank GOD everyday that He answered my prayers and sent us President Trump to help us take back our country from the Demons!
My God, we have hungry and homeless here in America yet our Crooked politicians are trying to help the Illegals and Criminals!
Obama the Terrorist was feeding the ENEMY = satanic muslims! Allah is NOT God! Their allah is the Devil!
I grew up thinking that “Why can’t we all just get along?” “Why can’t everyone just be nice?” I was brought up to be kind, loving, and obedient. I was a shy, insecure, and little girl, and all I wanted was to be loved, wanted, and needed. I was nice to people–so some thought that I was weak.
My psycho Ex, thought that he could lie to me, use me, and abuse me; and that I would just lay down and take it. He didn’t realize that I had a strong faith in my God, and that I had already learned the hard way– that some people with “street-thinking” believed that anyone who was nice and kind–were weak and could be taken advantage of.
I was blessed with a strong support system–my God, my family, my friends, my therapist, my sponsors, and my “program for living”.
No one is worth…
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The picture is adorable. I was a really, sweet, loving, adorable, and kind little girl. I loved everyone, and believed that if everyone would just “be nice” to each other then life would be wonderful. I was an idealist.
But…that was not reality…and everyone was not nice. I was taught that we were all God’s children and we were loved. I thought that the “good guys” always won, and that you should be honest, kind, and loving to everyone.
I loved to read, and I lived through my books. I always had a diary or journal. Writing always gave me a release and helped me to sort my feelings out.
I loved playing house, dancing, singing, walking barefoot in the cool grass, and climbing trees. Every summer we had a pool in our backyard, and Daddy cooked a lot of barbecue. He made the best chicken with his homemade barbecue sauce, and Mother…
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The Oak Tree Was Once Just A Little Nut That Held Its Ground…I always have felt like a nut. I was a little nut that grew into a large and strong Oak Tree…God through my twelve step programs has made that possible.
I have always love flowers, trees and nature.
In the sixties, I was a hippie, a “flower child”. I always knew that I was different from other girls. I did not like a lot of “girl things”. I always felt out of place and left out. I love the analogy of the “nut” and the “oak tree”. It fits me.
The Oak Tree also reminds me of my Family Tree. Our Oak Tree has a strong foundation that just began with one nut. I am so grateful to have been born one of the nuts on my family tree. Grateful to be born free in the U.S.A. to…
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If we are Rooted in God and Jesus we are able to stand the strong winds, and storms of life! God never promised us a “rose garden”. He promised us that He would be there with us to comfort us and we would never have to be alone again, unless we wanted to be.
My family has shown me that we can go through anything with God and Jesus by our side. God has carried me through abuse, stalking, unemployment, losing my car, losing my home, and divorce. God never left me. I left Him.
Then, he gave me the “love of my life” when He thought that I was ready. I had to learn to put God number one no matter what….above my family, my husband, and my children…when I lost all and only had God…I found out that He was all that I ever needed. Mother told me…
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Well folks, another Christmas is in the books!
Christmas 2K16 is officially behind us. The eggnog has been consumed. Gifts gifted. Food coma endured. And for those brave souls who took on a real tree this year, its pine needles are officially all over the floor and will be mysteriously appearing in randomcrevicesfor the next 4 months.
Ever since I was of “appropriate age,” my family has always gone to Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve. It is one of my favorite memories and traditions. The caroling at 11pm. The candles. The trumpets. For the past, say, 15+ years, we have been going, and every year, we’d always get there right at 11:00, throwing elbows, and staking out our pew, as it is always standing room only. And don’t even bother coming at 11:15…because there will be no parking and you’re guaranteed to be standing – two deep – in the…
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REBELLING AGAINST THE LORD IS COSTLY. The divine law of consequences is that people reap what they sow, more than they sow, and later than they sow. And the principle is unchangeable whether you believe in God or not.
A prevailing attitude of our modern culture is that rules prevent people from having a good time. That is certainly not the Lord’s intention. In fact, He offers us true freedom through a relationship with Him.
Our loving heavenly Father desires to keep His children growing in their faith and safe from the devil’s temptations and the worldly influences. He does that by limiting our actions and commanding that we follow certain laws and principles, which He has designed for our good. There is no greater pleasure or source of contentment than serving Him.
Rebellion, on the other hand, is a form of slavery. By defying the Lord’s authority in some areas of our life, we are allowing the enemy to shackle us. We may not initially feel the constraint of His trap but keep in mind that divine law of consequences.
Eventually, we will be heavily burdened by our sin. Whether the the penalty ends up being carried out in the body, mind, heart, or spirit, we will find ourselves distracted from wholly serving the Lord. (Matt. 6:24)
God takes disobedience seriously because the consequences are so grave. As the Sovereign of the universe and our loving Father, He has only our best in mind. So rebelling against Him is foolish. Wise men and women live by His Word and obey Him. (Ps. 119.9) source: IN TOUCH, Dr. Charles F. Stanley
November 24, 2016 Puppy Power Nothing works like Puppy Power ! This video will make you feel good all day long. Purina is donating 1 pound of dog food to a shelter for every viewing of this video. If anyone wants to help out – please forward it on! kommonsentsjane
Trust in the LORD Jesus-Yeshua Christ with all Thine HEART and SOUL!! ( Deuteronomy 8:7 KJV ) “For the LORD thy GOD Bringeth thee into a Good Land, a Land of Brooks of Water, of Fountains and Depths that Spring out of Valleys and Hills;”!! ( Genesis 1:1 KJV ) “In the Beginning GOD Created the […]
Trust in the LORD Jesus-Yeshua Christ with all Thine HEART and SOUL!! ( Deuteronomy 28:9 KJV ) “The LORD shall Establish thee an Holy people unto Himself, as He hath Sworn unto thee, if thou shalt Keep the Commandments of the LORD thy GOD, and walk in His Ways.”!! ( Deuteronomy 28:1-2 KJV )”And it shall […]
I have been called Radical, and I kind of surprised myself, and answered, Yes, I am a Radical I am!
I am RADICAL about my love for my God, my country,my family, and my friends, and I will FIGHT with all I have to try and “protect” and “save” them all from the demons in power!! I am Radical about my love for America and I will FIGHT for her, and I will honor my ancestors by not sitting back and allowing the demons to completely destroy our beloved nation!
I have always been a Rebel, and I have been proud of it. I never wanted to go along with the clique’s, and I have always followed my own path and traveled to the “beat of my own drum”. I am unique. I never give up, when I know that it is God’s will.
I never knew that I was a Radical. I guess that I am. There are a lot worse things to be. Someone who has never failed, must never have tried or done anything. I have failed many, many times in my sixty two years of life.
Definition of Radical:
Simple Definition of radical
: very new and different from what is traditional or ordinary
: very basic and important
: having extreme political or social views that are not shared by most people
Examples of radical in a sentence
The computer has introduced radical innovations.
There are some radical differences between the two proposals.
The new president has made some radical changes to the company.
Source: Merriam-Webster’s Learner’s Dictionary