Celebrating Thirty One Years of Recovery in Al-Anon! One Day at a Time!

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I can hardly believe that it has been thirty one years ago today, that I began my road to happy destiny in Al-Anon. I dragged into my first meeting depressed, pissed, suicidal, homicidal, full of self pity and resentments toward others. I came to “get him sober” yet I found out that I had no power over him, and that I was the only one that I had any power over. Of course, I did not believe them. I thought, “But you don’t know me”. He will stop for me. I am younger than him, sexy, and he really loves me.

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Long story short, he did not stop for me, but I found what I needed for me…serenity, peace, and love. I found people that “loved me, wanted me, and needed me” for free.

Nine months going to Al-Anon and still being miserable and doing all of the DON’Ts instead of the DO’s, my sponsor recommended that I go to AA, and find out more about alcoholism. I continued to drink at my husband, because I thought, “I am not the alcoholic…he is”.  I agreed that I might check it out. 

After three years of my attending meetings and working my steps with my sponsor, I finally had had enough of his drunkenness and chaos. So, I chose to divorce him, because I could not live in the insanity anymore. I was beginning to feel better and I decided that I wanted recovery even if he did not. I had spent my whole life thinking of others, trying to help others, and in the process, I did not lose me, because you have to have an “identity” in order to lose one, and I had never had one. I found out that I was Co-Dependent. I read up on Co-Dependency and I went to therapy too.

Let it begin with me.When anyone anywhere reaches out for help, we want the hand of Al-Anon and Ala-Teen to be there.

I celebrated thirty years of sobriety and serenity in January 2017.  God has used me for thirty years to “carry the message of recovery” to many others.  I share my recovery to those that “want” it, because we can only help those that “want” recovery and are “willing to go to any lengths” to achieve sobriety and serenity.  Very few have chosen to stay sober come hell or high water, no matter what, because we have “free will”, and they are looking for an “easier, softer way”.  I chose the “harder, right way”.

Bill and Lois Wilson

 

Seeing God In Nature

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“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” – Genesis 1:1

Where is your spot? Where is that place that you go and no matter how crazy and chaotic your life has been, that place that will bring you peace and help you to center?

Some people find that place in the mountains. The awesome grandeur of majestic mountains shows God’s power and creativity and it reminds us that the problems of earth can certainly be handled by God.  

Some find a sense of peace and perspective in when they are near the ocean. Again the massive body of water and the consistency of the tide and waves brings peace and comfort. 

Some others enjoy a meadow setting; still others love the varied creativity of the woods. 

Regardless of where the spot is where you feel calmed and closer to God, it is a place where you can appreciate God’s creation… His creativity, His power, His strength and His love. Being in this spot in creation gives you a God moment.  

My serenity spot’s are all of those above. I especially love waterfalls and the woods. I love my jungle. I love trees. My backyard is my jungle, and it is not perfect, but it is my gift from God. There are weeds, and roses have thorns, but I focus on what I have instead of what I don’t have today. I can find peace and serenity in the bird’s singing and all of the greenery cropping up in the Springtime, my favorite time of year. It represents ‘New Life” to me. 

Nature is the art of God. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson 

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The Ruin of Rebellion

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Galations 6:7-10

REBELLING AGAINST THE LORD IS COSTLY. The divine law of consequences is that people reap what they sow, more than they sow, and later than they sow. And the principle is unchangeable whether you believe in God or not.

A prevailing attitude of our modern culture is that rules prevent people from having a good time. That is certainly not the Lord’s intention. In fact, He offers us true freedom through a relationship with Him.  

Our loving heavenly Father desires to keep His children growing in their faith and safe from the devil’s temptations  and the worldly influences. He does that by limiting our actions and commanding that we follow certain laws and principles, which He has designed for our good. There is no greater pleasure or source of contentment than serving Him.

Rebellion, on the other hand, is a form of slavery. By defying the Lord’s authority in  some areas of our life, we are allowing the enemy to shackle us. We may not initially feel the constraint of His trap but keep in mind that divine law of consequences

Eventually, we will be heavily burdened by our sin. Whether the the penalty ends up being carried out in the body, mind, heart, or spirit, we will find ourselves distracted from wholly serving the Lord. (Matt. 6:24) 

God takes disobedience seriously because the consequences are so grave. As the Sovereign of the universe and our loving Father, He has only our best in mind. So rebelling against Him is foolish. Wise men and women live by His Word and obey Him. (Ps. 119.9)  source: IN TOUCH, Dr. Charles F. Stanley

https://www.intouch.org/read/magazine/daily-devotions/the-ruin-of-rebellion

Third Step Prayer

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Third Step Prayer. It reminds me that I have a new employer…God…and that He will keep me safe if I try to help his children…to find their way back to Him. All I have to do is to “share my experience, my strength, and my hope…and He will do the rest.

 

SOME PEOPLE MISTAKE KINDNESS FOR WEAKNESS

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if-you-cant-be-kind-be-quietI grew up thinking that “Why can’t we all just get along?” “Why can’t everyone just be nice?” I was brought up to be kind, loving, and obedient. I was a shy, insecure, and little girl, and all I wanted was to be loved, wanted, and needed. I was nice to people–so some thought that  I was weak.

My psycho Ex, thought that he could lie to me, use me, and abuse me; and that I would just lay down and take it. He didn’t realize that I had a strong faith in my God, and that I had already learned the hard way– that some people with “street-thinking” believed that anyone who was nice and kind–were weak and could be taken advantage of.

I was blessed with a strong support system–my God, my family, my friends, my therapist, my sponsors, and my “program for living”.

No one is worth…

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The Age of Innocence

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Sally Ann Frederick, age 6 months, June 1954The picture is adorable. I was a really, sweet, loving, adorable, and kind little girl. I loved everyone, and believed that if everyone would just “be nice” to each other then life would be wonderful. I was an idealist.

But…that was not reality…and everyone was not nice. I was taught that we were all God’s children and we were loved. I thought that the “good guys” always won, and that you should be honest, kind, and loving to everyone.

I loved to read, and I lived through my books. I always had a diary or journal. Writing always gave me a release and helped me to sort my feelings out. 

I loved playing house, dancing, singing, walking barefoot in the cool grass, and climbing trees. Every summer we had a pool in our backyard, and Daddy cooked a lot of barbecue. He made the best chicken with his homemade barbecue sauce, and Mother…

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The Oak Tree Was Once Just A Little Nut That Held Its Ground

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The Oak Tree Was Once Just A Little Nut That Held Its Ground…I always have felt like a nut. I was a little nut that grew into a large and strong Oak Tree…God through my twelve step programs has made that possible. 

I have always love flowers, trees and nature.

In the sixties, I was a hippie, a “flower child”.  I always knew that I was different from other girls. I did not like a lot of “girl things”.  I always felt out of place and left out. I love the analogy of the “nut” and the “oak tree”.  It fits me.

The Oak Tree also reminds me of my Family Tree. Our Oak Tree has a strong foundation that just began with one nut. I am so grateful to have been born one of the nuts on my family tree. Grateful to be born free in the U.S.A. to…

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Family, Like Branches On A Tree, We Grow in Different Directions, Yet Our Roots Remain As One, Rooted In God And Jesus!

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If we are Rooted in God and Jesus we are able to stand the strong winds, and storms of life! God never promised us a “rose garden”.  He promised us that He would be there with us to comfort us and we would never have to be alone again, unless we wanted to be. 

My family has shown me that we can go through anything with God and Jesus by our side. God has carried me through abuse, stalking, unemployment, losing my car, losing my home, and divorce. God never left me. I left Him.

Then, he gave me the “love of my life” when He thought that I was ready. I had to learn to put God number one no matter what….above my family, my husband, and my children…when I lost all and only had God…I found out that He was all that I ever needed. Mother told me…

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Is Christianity Dead?

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Well folks, another Christmas is in the books!

Christmas 2K16 is officially behind us. The eggnog has been consumed. Gifts gifted. Food coma endured. And for those brave souls who took on a real tree this year, its pine needles are officially all over the floor and will be mysteriously appearing in randomcrevicesfor the next 4 months.

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Ever since I was of “appropriate age,” my family has always gone to Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve. It is one of my favorite memories and traditions. The caroling at 11pm. The candles. The trumpets. For the past, say, 15+ years, we have been going, and every year, we’d always get there right at 11:00, throwing elbows, and staking out our pew, as it is always standing room only. And don’t even bother coming at 11:15…because there will be no parking and you’re guaranteed to be standing – two deep – in the…

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Proud to be One of God’s RADICALS!

 

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I have been called Radical, and I kind of surprised myself, and answered, Yes, I am a Radical I am!

I am RADICAL about my love for my God, my country,my family, and my friends, and I will FIGHT with all I have to try and “protect” and “save” them all from the demons in power!! I am Radical about my love for America and I will FIGHT for her, and I will honor my ancestors by not sitting back and allowing the demons to completely destroy our beloved nation!

I have always been a Rebel, and I have been proud of it. I never wanted to go along with the clique’s, and I have always followed my own path and traveled to the “beat of my own drum”.  I am unique. I never give up, when I know that it is God’s will. 

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I never knew that I was a Radical. I guess that I am. There are a lot worse things to be. Someone who has never failed, must never have tried or done anything. I have failed many, many times in my sixty two years of life. 

Definition of Radical: 

Simple Definition of radical

  • : very new and different from what is traditional or ordinary

  • : very basic and important

  • : having extreme political or social views that are not shared by most people

Examples of radical in a sentence

  1. The computer has introduced radical innovations.

  2. There are some radical differences between the two proposals.

  3. The new president has made some radical changes to the company.

Source: Merriam-Webster’s Learner’s Dictionary

God Can Turn A Mess Into A Message!

Only God can turn a mess into a message, a test into a testimony, a trial into a triumph, a victim into a victory!  #God #quotes #inspirational:

I believe without a doubt, that our “negative” experiences can help others.

I love the Eagles song: “Get Over It”!

I WAS one of those whiners, angry, and negative.

I did not go dragging into a 12 Step meetings until I was 32.

I spent many years miserable, and placing too much dependence on people, places, and things. I ran from my problems and allowed others to abuse or use me. Today, I stand tall and proud of all the negative things that I have experienced. God allows me to help others with my recovery.

Some can do it through the church, but I found mine in the 12 Step groups. I never felt like I belonged, or that I was good enough. “Different strokes for different folks”. I know without a doubt that God works through people. I owe my life to those people. Today, after almost thirty years, I have a very special and close relationship to my God. God bless you and thanks for posting. It has me in tears missing my mother and daddy, and thanking God everyday that God never gives up on us.

Fantasy Versus Reality

 

For half of my life, I lived in Fantasy. I was miserable, and depressed. I lived in my past and resentments, and fear about the future. I never lived in today. I thought that I was just doomed to fail, and that God, if there was one, did not love me. 

Hope everyone has a happy and healthy Valentine’s Day whether you have a special someone or not. I did not have one for several years, and I felt left out. Remember that this is “just another day”, and life is not perfect.

So, we do the best that we can with what God has given us and “live in today”, and make sure that you don’t make any person your “higher power”, and you place only God number One. God is the only One that will never leave you nor forsake you. Divorces happen, people die, but I believe that God will comfort you because He has me. Just ask.

Keep close to your family and make good friends, because they are ALL that really matter anyway.

The “perfect” love or “perfect” person does NOT exist! It is a Fantasy.

Real love takes work, love, patience, and forgiveness. My husband felt bad because he thought that he had to buy me something. Not true!

Money is NOT everything, believe me I know, I have had it and it did not make me happy. The only true happiness and peace of mind comes from God/Jesus NOT people, places, or things.

News flash…we will never get everything that we want…and that is Selfish! We will get what God gives us…and we need to learn to like whatever He gives us and be grateful for what we have instead of always looking for what else we want.

Be grateful. You have it better than some others do, no matter what you do have or don’t have. Pray Every Day.

Celebrate if you have Real love, and don’t ever take it for granted…because it might be gone, or stolen…just as material possessions are. God’s love is the only constant in the world. Love is our greatest commandment. Remember God loves you no matter what!!

People Are More Important Than Things

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I will always remember that “people” are more important than “things”.  

Things can be stolen, destroyed, lost, burned, or flooded. I have been through death, unemployment, disease, divorce, floods, and losing many material possessions in my journey.

My God, my family and friends have helped carry me through all sorts of losses. I cannot imagine how I would have survived without my God, my family, and my friends. 

But…I have not lost any family or friends to such horrible events as the INNOCENT VICTIMS have by the 911 ASSAULT on our people and country! There can be NO justification for MURDERING INNOCENT people to try and get revenge for real wrongs or perceived ones. NO MORE EXCUSES FOR UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR!! 

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Consider The Source

The thought crossed my mind today that I needed to “Consider the Source”. I learned it from my program. I have accepted the fact that not everyone is going to love you or like you, so you must consider the source. Some others may try to hurt you, use or abuse you, but you have to be strong and learn to say “No” to their evil ways.

If the evil ones don’t like me that is alright, because their opinion of me does not matter. It only matters what God thinks of me, and I am not on this earth to please the ungodly. My God wants me to speak the TRUTH, whether anyone else wants to hear it or not. Stand my ground, and Speak up against evil. I have always been a writer so I write about the things that are important to me. My God loves me unconditionally and He does not expect me to be perfect. I only have to do the best that I can with what He has given me. September is #RecoveryMonth. Pass it on.

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In Life You Will Realize That There Is A Purpose For Everyone You Meet.

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In Life You Will Realize That There Is A Purpose For Everyone You Meet.

Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.

But most important are the ones who bring out the best in you, respect you and accept you for who you are. Those are the ones worth keeping around.  

God has put people into my life that have shown me what I do not want to be like, and He has also put the people into my life that have shown me what I do want to become like.  

Choose wisely. And…hopefully you will get to the point to where you are tired of paying the consequences for your bad decisions, and so you will learn to make better decisions. God will keep putting you in those situations until you learn your lesson and then you can stop repeating your self defeating actions, that are not in your best interests.

 

Don’t Carry Your Mistakes Around With You!

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We are powerless over our past, we cannot save the world, we must accept reality and work on what we can change ourselves. Learn from your mistakes, then turn it over to God, ask for forgiveness and let it go. Move on with your life and lessons, and do the best that you can with what God has given you.