“Recently I saw a sign on a church that said, “Trust in God, believe in yourself, and you can do anything.” That is not correct.
There was a time in my life when I would have seen that sign and said, “Amen!” But not anymore. You and I really cannot do anything we want to do. We cannot do anything or everything that everyone else is doing. But we can do everything God has called us to do. And we can be anything God says we can be.
We must get balance in this area. We can go to motivational seminars and be told with a lot of emotional hype, “You can do anything. Think you can do it; believe you can do it; say you can do it–and you can do it!” That is true only to a degree. Carried too far, it get off into humanism. We need to speak about ourselves what the Word says about us.
We can do what we are called to do, what we are gifted to do. There are ways we can learn to recognize the grace gifts that are on our lives.
I have learned this regarding myself; when I start getting frustrated, I know it is a sign that either I have gotten off into my own works and am no longer receiving God’s grace, or I am trying to to do something for which there was no grace to begin with.” ~~New Day New You, Joyce Meyer
I spent many years of my life trying to figure out what God wanted me to do or be. I became a people-pleaser and I tried to be what other people thought I should be. I worshiped my mother, so I tried to be what she wanted me to be. All I ever wanted to be was a wife and mother, and have a home like she did. I married an abusive man and found out that I could not have any children. I could not imagine what I was living for.
By God’s grace, we adopted a beautiful baby boy. I had it all, or so I thought, a home, husband, and a baby. I was still unfulfilled, depressed, and unhappy.
I never knew for sure that I was what God had planned for me to be. No matter what I did, I felt it was never enough. My ex-husband drank a lot and cheated on me and he was a workaholic. Neither of us were happy. I wanted a husband who was kind, loving, and faithful. A husband who came home at night and wanted to be with me, and wanted to build a home together. I never had the intimacy that I craved, even when my ex-husband was home, he was “emotionally unavailable” to me.
In recovery, I began trying to learn what God’s will was for me. I began working with others and “carrying the message”. So, I decided to become a Substance Abuse Counselor.
I went to college and became a Counselor. After five years, working in the prison system, I became “burned out” besides being laid off in 1995. I was devastated. I was unemployed and therefore, could not pay house notes, car notes, and had to move out and sell my home. My son chose to move in with his Dad. God, I felt like such a failure. It is a miracle that I am alive and that I survived, because back then I wanted to die!
By God’s grace, I had family for a support system. Through my “program for living” I became closer to God and I learned to “accept life on life’s terms” and not my own. After years of working on me, I am now remarried and I have never been happier. I have a home, wonderful husband, and wonderful family who loves me just as I am. Life is still not perfect, because that is life.
My number one priorities are knowing and doing God’s will, staying away from alcohol, “carrying the message”, and doing God’s will not mine. God has taken away the “chaos” and replaced it with “serenity”. I was not an overnight job. It took living “One day at a Time”.