Do you want “Good” in your life? Now, who would not, we think to ourselves.
Choices….if you want “Good” to increase…do and say good things…and …notice what someone does right. Notice what is Right and it increases…it Grows.
I promise if you look at others and notice their good qualities and praise them for it instead of only noticing the bad qualities that we all have…more good. I grew up with alcoholism along with negativity, depression, anger, shame, blaming, and making excuses for their bad choices. I choose “Good”, I choose GOD.
If I focus on others negative all the time and never notice what they do right or focus on their flaws, then I make me and them both miserable. When I let them know their “Good” qualities and thank them for the “Good” things that they do or say to me, then we both feel better, and we feel love, wanted, needed.
Please, try to not always just complain, criticize, or blame others all the time. It helps no one! In my opinion, anger, resentment, and all other negative things in our life are the “Weeds” in our garden and the twelve steps are the inventory of “good” and “bad”. BALANCE one of my favorite words. A BALANCE sheet of yourself. Then move on to the Fifth Step.
Focus on others good and make it a point to let them know that you appreciate it. Focus on the Solution instead of the Problem. Help NOT Hurt. “Bloom where you are planted.”
One of my favorite vacation pics of my Dad, Louis Mancill, my sister, Phyllis and Danny Hyden and Daniel and Stefanie Hyden, Guadalupe River, New Braunfels, Texas, about 1980
Gruene Historical District is located within the city limits of New Braunfels. Founded by the sons of settlers Ernst and Antoinette Gruene, the community had a bank, post office, school, general store, lumberyard, gristmill, dance hall, and cotton gin. It also had access to two railways for shipping cotton bales. Its most famous attribute was the dance hall, a family activity in those days. Due to the failure of the cotton crop from boll weevils, and the failure of the banks after 1929, commercial activity slowed to a crawl. This village is now a Nationally Registered Historic District where one can dine in the ruins of the original gristmill or enjoy live music at Gruene Hall. The community may…
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I can hardly believe that it has been thirty one years ago today, that I began my road to happy destiny in Al-Anon. I dragged into my first meeting depressed, pissed, suicidal, homicidal, full of self pity and resentments toward others. I came to “get him sober” yet I found out that I had no power over him, and that I was the only one that I had any power over. Of course, I did not believe them. I thought, “But you don’t know me”. He will stop for me. I am younger than him, sexy, and he really loves me.
Long story short, he did not stop for me, but I found what I needed for me…serenity, peace, and love. I found people that “loved me, wanted me, and needed me” for free.
Nine months going to Al-Anon and still being miserable and doing all of the DON’Ts instead of the DO’s, my sponsor recommended that I go to AA, and find out more about alcoholism. I continued to drink at my husband, because I thought, “I am not the alcoholic…he is”. I agreed that I might check it out.
After three years of my attending meetings and working my steps with my sponsor, I finally had had enough of his drunkenness and chaos. So, I chose to divorce him, because I could not live in the insanity anymore. I was beginning to feel better and I decided that I wanted recovery even if he did not. I had spent my whole life thinking of others, trying to help others, and in the process, I did not lose me, because you have to have an “identity” in order to lose one, and I had never had one. I found out that I was Co-Dependent. I read up on Co-Dependency and I went to therapy too.
Let it begin with me.When anyone anywhere reaches out for help, we want the hand of Al-Anon and Ala-Teen to be there.
I celebrated thirty years of sobriety and serenity in January 2017. God has used me for thirty years to “carry the message of recovery” to many others. I share my recovery to those that “want” it, because we can only help those that “want” recovery and are “willing to go to any lengths” to achieve sobriety and serenity. Very few have chosen to stay sober come hell or high water, no matter what, because we have “free will”, and they are looking for an “easier, softer way”. I chose the “harder, right way”.
“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” – Genesis 1:1
Where is your spot? Where is that place that you go and no matter how crazy and chaotic your life has been, that place that will bring you peace and help you to center?
Some people find that place in the mountains. The awesome grandeur of majestic mountains shows God’s power and creativity and it reminds us that the problems of earth can certainly be handled by God.
Some find a sense of peace and perspective in when they are near the ocean. Again the massive body of water and the consistency of the tide and waves brings peace and comfort.
Some others enjoy a meadow setting; still others love the varied creativity of the woods.
Regardless of where the spot is where you feel calmed and closer to God, it is a place where you can appreciate God’s creation… His creativity, His power, His strength and His love. Being in this spot in creation gives you a God moment.
My serenity spot’s are all of those above. I especially love waterfalls and the woods. I love my jungle. I love trees. My backyard is my jungle, and it is not perfect, but it is my gift from God. There are weeds, and roses have thorns, but I focus on what I have instead of what I don’t have today. I can find peace and serenity in the bird’s singing and all of the greenery cropping up in the Springtime, my favorite time of year. It represents ‘New Life” to me.
Nature is the art of God. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
The Oak Tree Was Once Just A Little Nut That Held Its Ground…I always have felt like a nut. I was a little nut that grew into a large and strong Oak Tree…God through my twelve step programs has made that possible.
I have always love flowers, trees and nature.
In the sixties, I was a hippie, a “flower child”. I always knew that I was different from other girls. I did not like a lot of “girl things”. I always felt out of place and left out. I love the analogy of the “nut” and the “oak tree”. It fits me.
The Oak Tree also reminds me of my Family Tree. Our Oak Tree has a strong foundation that just began with one nut. I am so grateful to have been born one of the nuts on my family tree. Grateful to be born free in the U.S.A. to…
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If we are Rooted in God and Jesus we are able to stand the strong winds, and storms of life! God never promised us a “rose garden”. He promised us that He would be there with us to comfort us and we would never have to be alone again, unless we wanted to be.
My family has shown me that we can go through anything with God and Jesus by our side. God has carried me through abuse, stalking, unemployment, losing my car, losing my home, and divorce. God never left me. I left Him.
Then, he gave me the “love of my life” when He thought that I was ready. I had to learn to put God number one no matter what….above my family, my husband, and my children…when I lost all and only had God…I found out that He was all that I ever needed. Mother told me…
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November 24, 2016 Puppy Power Nothing works like Puppy Power ! This video will make you feel good all day long. Purina is donating 1 pound of dog food to a shelter for every viewing of this video. If anyone wants to help out – please forward it on! kommonsentsjane
Trust in the LORD Jesus-Yeshua Christ with all Thine HEART and SOUL!! ( Deuteronomy 8:7 KJV ) “For the LORD thy GOD Bringeth thee into a Good Land, a Land of Brooks of Water, of Fountains and Depths that Spring out of Valleys and Hills;”!! ( Genesis 1:1 KJV ) “In the Beginning GOD Created the […]
Trust in the LORD Jesus-Yeshua Christ with all Thine HEART and SOUL!! ( Deuteronomy 28:9 KJV ) “The LORD shall Establish thee an Holy people unto Himself, as He hath Sworn unto thee, if thou shalt Keep the Commandments of the LORD thy GOD, and walk in His Ways.”!! ( Deuteronomy 28:1-2 KJV )”And it shall […]
Dealing with the Devil.
Take away the D from Devil and you still have the Evil. We live in a world with “good” and “evil”, and so we have to deal with them everyday. You must choose which you will follow.
You can pretend that evil does not exist, but ignoring it will not make it go away, and it will serve to allow it to take a hold of you and your life. I choose to fight evil not ignore it.
My higher power has told me that He loves me and wants me to fight evil, and that He does not want me to allow it to overcome me.
Our police officers cannot be everywhere all the time, and should not be our only defense against evil.
Our government should not be allowed to take away our God given right to defend and protect our family and home.
The Devil works through people just as God does. We can choose to allow the Devil in or choose to allow God in and do God’s will. Along with choosing the Devil and Evil, you will have to suffer the consequences of your choices. Don’t allow the Devil to get a stronghold in your life.
My motto has always been, “Be prepared”. I was never in the Girl Scouts, but I was a Boy Scout Den Mother. I choose to pray for the best, prepare for the worst, and be grateful for all the good in my life.
Most of my life, I never lived in today. I lived in my resentments from the past, or my fears for the future, and as a result I was miserable. I have learned to do the best that I can with what God has given me, and to stop beating myself up for not being perfect and to not allow others to make me feel inferior for not knowing all the answers. I am not God and I am human, therefore prone to fail sometimes, but God loves me as I am. I do not have to be perfect. It has been hard for me to continue to “live in today”, but today is the only day that have to live. Instead of worrying about what will happen tomorrow I have to stay in what can I do today and what is my responsibility. God is my “higher power” and all I have to do is to follow His will for me, and when I do my life is so much more serene and peaceful.
I spent most of my life trying to be someone else besides myself. I was never happy with myself or my life.
I always compared myself to others. I always fell short in my mind. I thought that in order to be loved I had to do something or be what others thought that I should be, in order to be loved or accepted. If fact, I grew up to be loved, I had to be perfect.
For twenty eight years now, I have learned that I don’t have to give up me to be loved by you, and when I did I was very unhappy. So, I believe that it is best for me to be myself then I am much happier and the people around me are happier too. Then, I am at peace with myself and others.
There must be a spiritual renewal of your thoughts and attitudes.
You must display a new nature because you are a new person, created in God’s likeness–righteous, holy, and true.
So put away all falsehood and “tell your neighbor the truth” because we belong to each other.
And “don’t sin by letting anger gain control over you.”
Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a mighty foothold to the devil.
source: Ephesians 4: 23-27 NLT