But it is from our twisted relations with family, friends, and society at large that many of us have suffered the most

12 Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship

But it is from our twisted relations with family, friends, and society at large that many of us have suffered the most. We have been especially stupid and stubborn about them.

The primary fact that we fail to recognize is our total inability to form a true partnership with another human being.

Our egomania digs two disastrous pitfalls.

Either we insist upon dominating the people we know, or we depend upon them far too much.

If we lean too heavily on people, they will sooner or later fail us, for they are human, too, and CANNOT possibly meet our incessant demands. In this way our insecurity grows and festers.

When we habitually try to manipulate others to our own willful desires, they revolt, and resist us heavily.

Then we develop hurt feelings, a sense of persecution, and a desire to retaliate. As we redouble our efforts at control, and continue to fail, our suffering becomes acute and constant.

We have not once sought to be one in a family, to be a friend among friends, to be a worker among workers, to be a useful member of society.

Always we tried to struggle to the top of the heap, or to hide underneath it. This self-centered behavior blocked a partnership relation with any one of those about us. Of true brotherhood we had small comprehension.

source: Alcoholics Anonymous, 12 X 12, Step 4, page 53

Thy Will (Not Mine) Be Done

I love this song! I just lost the “love of my life” on Sunday, Feb. 4, 2018, and I am consoled because of my faith, and because he is no longer suffering. I have learned through thirty years of recovery that God’s will is better for me than my own.
Hillary Scott’s lovely music has run through my head continually since then.
In our Big Book, it mentions “Thy Will (Not Mine) Be Done”.  I have been hearing in my head all month long “Thy Will Be Done”. 
I have chosen it as the theme of our 68th. anniversary this year.  I will be chairing our meeting for the first time ever. My sponsor, Birdie, was the first woman in our group, that helped to start our group. I am honored to be asked.
 “Every day is a day we must carry a vision of God’s will into all of our activities. How can I best serve Thee–Thy will (not mine) be done.”  source: Alcoholics Anonymous, Chapter 6, page 85 


The Real Difference Between Love And Lust

Happy Valentine's Day

Hope that everyone enjoys their Valentine’s Day. Even those who are missing their loved ones taken from them. Remember God loves you no matter what else is going in your life. I have had many good Valentine’s Days, and some bad ones. But even now, as I age, and my loved one is gone, he still lives with me in my heart. I am grateful for that. Today, I live in reality, not fantasy. Flowers, candy, or whatever, does not guarantee love nor can they make me happy. People who love me and are there for me, are what’s important to me. Spending money on your loved one is not as important as loving, appreciating, and being there for your special one. All of the material shit in the world cannot create happiness, only LOVE can do that.😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍


The Real Difference between Love and Lust

Are you uncertain on matters of love and lust? You are not alone in this. Many sensible people like you, are also caught-up in the confusion. Here are some shocking details on the same….

Sexual attraction is known to often obliterate general human intuition and common sense even in the seemingly sensible and principled individuals. Lust is hell-bent on procreation. It is fueled by the primal desire to have sex. At least we can blame this on our brains for now.

Studies backed by MRI scans indicate that during lust-phase, the human brain is quite like that on drugs. The same area of the brain lights-up with a fix of cocaine as when one is in lust. Love on the other hand is the right opposite of lust. Even with all that in mind, clear-cut distinction between love and lust remains elusive to…

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FROG = Fully Relying On God


I heard this in my Al-Anon meeting. I love it! We made it through Hurricane Harvey, and are finally home; our wish was for my husband to be home before Christmas, and God granted our wish. “Fully Relying On God”.

Belinda Ealy Reeves, You just gave me the idea for my blog. I got a frog for my Al-Anon birthday last year. Thanks Belinda Ealy Reeves for being there to keep the groups going in Mineral Wells, TX. My favorite for AA is “One Day at a Time”. 😘




It is a really sad day in America when those who try to feed our hungry children are persecuted. Down is up, and Evil and Selfishness are up, and are perceived as Good. It tells us in the Bible, that we are supposed to take care of our own First, then try to help others! In America there are those who have tried to help feed the homeless, and they have been fined and threatened with jail, now that is just Un-American and Un-Christian!! I thank GOD everyday that He answered my prayers and sent us President Trump to help us take back our country from the Demons!

My God, we have hungry and homeless here in America yet our Crooked politicians are trying to help the Illegals and Criminals!

Obama the Terrorist was feeding the ENEMY = satanic muslims! Allah is NOT God! Their allah is the Devil!


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if-you-cant-be-kind-be-quietI grew up thinking that “Why can’t we all just get along?” “Why can’t everyone just be nice?” I was brought up to be kind, loving, and obedient. I was a shy, insecure, and little girl, and all I wanted was to be loved, wanted, and needed. I was nice to people–so some thought that  I was weak.

My psycho Ex, thought that he could lie to me, use me, and abuse me; and that I would just lay down and take it. He didn’t realize that I had a strong faith in my God, and that I had already learned the hard way– that some people with “street-thinking” believed that anyone who was nice and kind–were weak and could be taken advantage of.

I was blessed with a strong support system–my God, my family, my friends, my therapist, my sponsors, and my “program for living”.

No one is worth…

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The Age of Innocence

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Sally Ann Frederick, age 6 months, June 1954The picture is adorable. I was a really, sweet, loving, adorable, and kind little girl. I loved everyone, and believed that if everyone would just “be nice” to each other then life would be wonderful. I was an idealist.

But…that was not reality…and everyone was not nice. I was taught that we were all God’s children and we were loved. I thought that the “good guys” always won, and that you should be honest, kind, and loving to everyone.

I loved to read, and I lived through my books. I always had a diary or journal. Writing always gave me a release and helped me to sort my feelings out. 

I loved playing house, dancing, singing, walking barefoot in the cool grass, and climbing trees. Every summer we had a pool in our backyard, and Daddy cooked a lot of barbecue. He made the best chicken with his homemade barbecue sauce, and Mother…

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Is Christianity Dead?


Well folks, another Christmas is in the books!

Christmas 2K16 is officially behind us. The eggnog has been consumed. Gifts gifted. Food coma endured. And for those brave souls who took on a real tree this year, its pine needles are officially all over the floor and will be mysteriously appearing in randomcrevicesfor the next 4 months.


Ever since I was of “appropriate age,” my family has always gone to Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve. It is one of my favorite memories and traditions. The caroling at 11pm. The candles. The trumpets. For the past, say, 15+ years, we have been going, and every year, we’d always get there right at 11:00, throwing elbows, and staking out our pew, as it is always standing room only. And don’t even bother coming at 11:15…because there will be no parking and you’re guaranteed to be standing – two deep – in the…

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The Ruin of Rebellion


Galations 6:7-10

REBELLING AGAINST THE LORD IS COSTLY. The divine law of consequences is that people reap what they sow, more than they sow, and later than they sow. And the principle is unchangeable whether you believe in God or not.

A prevailing attitude of our modern culture is that rules prevent people from having a good time. That is certainly not the Lord’s intention. In fact, He offers us true freedom through a relationship with Him.  

Our loving heavenly Father desires to keep His children growing in their faith and safe from the devil’s temptations  and the worldly influences. He does that by limiting our actions and commanding that we follow certain laws and principles, which He has designed for our good. There is no greater pleasure or source of contentment than serving Him.

Rebellion, on the other hand, is a form of slavery. By defying the Lord’s authority in  some areas of our life, we are allowing the enemy to shackle us. We may not initially feel the constraint of His trap but keep in mind that divine law of consequences

Eventually, we will be heavily burdened by our sin. Whether the the penalty ends up being carried out in the body, mind, heart, or spirit, we will find ourselves distracted from wholly serving the Lord. (Matt. 6:24) 

God takes disobedience seriously because the consequences are so grave. As the Sovereign of the universe and our loving Father, He has only our best in mind. So rebelling against Him is foolish. Wise men and women live by His Word and obey Him. (Ps. 119.9)  source: IN TOUCH, Dr. Charles F. Stanley


Proud to be One of God’s RADICALS!



I have been called Radical, and I kind of surprised myself, and answered, Yes, I am a Radical I am!

I am RADICAL about my love for my God, my country,my family, and my friends, and I will FIGHT with all I have to try and “protect” and “save” them all from the demons in power!! I am Radical about my love for America and I will FIGHT for her, and I will honor my ancestors by not sitting back and allowing the demons to completely destroy our beloved nation!

I have always been a Rebel, and I have been proud of it. I never wanted to go along with the clique’s, and I have always followed my own path and traveled to the “beat of my own drum”.  I am unique. I never give up, when I know that it is God’s will. 

no longer accepting things that i can change

I never knew that I was a Radical. I guess that I am. There are a lot worse things to be. Someone who has never failed, must never have tried or done anything. I have failed many, many times in my sixty two years of life. 

Definition of Radical: 

Simple Definition of radical

  • : very new and different from what is traditional or ordinary

  • : very basic and important

  • : having extreme political or social views that are not shared by most people

Examples of radical in a sentence

  1. The computer has introduced radical innovations.

  2. There are some radical differences between the two proposals.

  3. The new president has made some radical changes to the company.

Source: Merriam-Webster’s Learner’s Dictionary

God Can Turn A Mess Into A Message!

Only God can turn a mess into a message, a test into a testimony, a trial into a triumph, a victim into a victory!  #God #quotes #inspirational:

I believe without a doubt, that our “negative” experiences can help others.

I love the Eagles song: “Get Over It”!

I WAS one of those whiners, angry, and negative.

I did not go dragging into a 12 Step meetings until I was 32.

I spent many years miserable, and placing too much dependence on people, places, and things. I ran from my problems and allowed others to abuse or use me. Today, I stand tall and proud of all the negative things that I have experienced. God allows me to help others with my recovery.

Some can do it through the church, but I found mine in the 12 Step groups. I never felt like I belonged, or that I was good enough. “Different strokes for different folks”. I know without a doubt that God works through people. I owe my life to those people. Today, after almost thirty years, I have a very special and close relationship to my God. God bless you and thanks for posting. It has me in tears missing my mother and daddy, and thanking God everyday that God never gives up on us.

Fantasy Versus Reality


For half of my life, I lived in Fantasy. I was miserable, and depressed. I lived in my past and resentments, and fear about the future. I never lived in today. I thought that I was just doomed to fail, and that God, if there was one, did not love me. 

Hope everyone has a happy and healthy Valentine’s Day whether you have a special someone or not. I did not have one for several years, and I felt left out. Remember that this is “just another day”, and life is not perfect.

So, we do the best that we can with what God has given us and “live in today”, and make sure that you don’t make any person your “higher power”, and you place only God number One. God is the only One that will never leave you nor forsake you. Divorces happen, people die, but I believe that God will comfort you because He has me. Just ask.

Keep close to your family and make good friends, because they are ALL that really matter anyway.

The “perfect” love or “perfect” person does NOT exist! It is a Fantasy.

Real love takes work, love, patience, and forgiveness. My husband felt bad because he thought that he had to buy me something. Not true!

Money is NOT everything, believe me I know, I have had it and it did not make me happy. The only true happiness and peace of mind comes from God/Jesus NOT people, places, or things.

News flash…we will never get everything that we want…and that is Selfish! We will get what God gives us…and we need to learn to like whatever He gives us and be grateful for what we have instead of always looking for what else we want.

Be grateful. You have it better than some others do, no matter what you do have or don’t have. Pray Every Day.

Celebrate if you have Real love, and don’t ever take it for granted…because it might be gone, or stolen…just as material possessions are. God’s love is the only constant in the world. Love is our greatest commandment. Remember God loves you no matter what!!

People Are More Important Than Things


I will always remember that “people” are more important than “things”.  

Things can be stolen, destroyed, lost, burned, or flooded. I have been through death, unemployment, disease, divorce, floods, and losing many material possessions in my journey.

My God, my family and friends have helped carry me through all sorts of losses. I cannot imagine how I would have survived without my God, my family, and my friends. 

But…I have not lost any family or friends to such horrible events as the INNOCENT VICTIMS have by the 911 ASSAULT on our people and country! There can be NO justification for MURDERING INNOCENT people to try and get revenge for real wrongs or perceived ones. NO MORE EXCUSES FOR UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR!! 


Consider The Source

The thought crossed my mind today that I needed to “Consider the Source”. I learned it from my program. I have accepted the fact that not everyone is going to love you or like you, so you must consider the source. Some others may try to hurt you, use or abuse you, but you have to be strong and learn to say “No” to their evil ways.

If the evil ones don’t like me that is alright, because their opinion of me does not matter. It only matters what God thinks of me, and I am not on this earth to please the ungodly. My God wants me to speak the TRUTH, whether anyone else wants to hear it or not. Stand my ground, and Speak up against evil. I have always been a writer so I write about the things that are important to me. My God loves me unconditionally and He does not expect me to be perfect. I only have to do the best that I can with what He has given me. September is #RecoveryMonth. Pass it on.


In Life You Will Realize That There Is A Purpose For Everyone You Meet.

In life there is a purpose for everyone

In Life You Will Realize That There Is A Purpose For Everyone You Meet.

Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.

But most important are the ones who bring out the best in you, respect you and accept you for who you are. Those are the ones worth keeping around.  

God has put people into my life that have shown me what I do not want to be like, and He has also put the people into my life that have shown me what I do want to become like.  

Choose wisely. And…hopefully you will get to the point to where you are tired of paying the consequences for your bad decisions, and so you will learn to make better decisions. God will keep putting you in those situations until you learn your lesson and then you can stop repeating your self defeating actions, that are not in your best interests.


Don’t Carry Your Mistakes Around With You!


We are powerless over our past, we cannot save the world, we must accept reality and work on what we can change ourselves. Learn from your mistakes, then turn it over to God, ask for forgiveness and let it go. Move on with your life and lessons, and do the best that you can with what God has given you.