There is nothing like a garden to get my juices flowing. During the past few weeks I have ignored my blog because of extenuating circumstances. Many of you know that I belong to a Lions Club, and two weeks ago Lions International celebrated their 100th birthday with a convention in Chicago. At the last-minute I […]
It is a really sad day in America when those who try to feed our hungry children are persecuted. Down is up, and Evil and Selfishness are up, and are perceived as Good. It tells us in the Bible, that we are supposed to take care of our own First, then try to help others! In America there are those who have tried to help feed the homeless, and they have been fined and threatened with jail, now that is just Un-American and Un-Christian!! I thank GOD everyday that He answered my prayers and sent us President Trump to help us take back our country from the Demons!
My God, we have hungry and homeless here in America yet our Crooked politicians are trying to help the Illegals and Criminals!
Obama the Terrorist was feeding the ENEMY = satanic muslims! Allah is NOT God! Their allah is the Devil!
I grew up thinking that “Why can’t we all just get along?” “Why can’t everyone just be nice?” I was brought up to be kind, loving, and obedient. I was a shy, insecure, and little girl, and all I wanted was to be loved, wanted, and needed. I was nice to people–so some thought that I was weak.
My psycho Ex, thought that he could lie to me, use me, and abuse me; and that I would just lay down and take it. He didn’t realize that I had a strong faith in my God, and that I had already learned the hard way– that some people with “street-thinking” believed that anyone who was nice and kind–were weak and could be taken advantage of.
I was blessed with a strong support system–my God, my family, my friends, my therapist, my sponsors, and my “program for living”.
No one is worth…
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The picture is adorable. I was a really, sweet, loving, adorable, and kind little girl. I loved everyone, and believed that if everyone would just “be nice” to each other then life would be wonderful. I was an idealist.
But…that was not reality…and everyone was not nice. I was taught that we were all God’s children and we were loved. I thought that the “good guys” always won, and that you should be honest, kind, and loving to everyone.
I loved to read, and I lived through my books. I always had a diary or journal. Writing always gave me a release and helped me to sort my feelings out.
I loved playing house, dancing, singing, walking barefoot in the cool grass, and climbing trees. Every summer we had a pool in our backyard, and Daddy cooked a lot of barbecue. He made the best chicken with his homemade barbecue sauce, and Mother…
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Well folks, another Christmas is in the books!
Christmas 2K16 is officially behind us. The eggnog has been consumed. Gifts gifted. Food coma endured. And for those brave souls who took on a real tree this year, its pine needles are officially all over the floor and will be mysteriously appearing in randomcrevicesfor the next 4 months.
Ever since I was of “appropriate age,” my family has always gone to Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve. It is one of my favorite memories and traditions. The caroling at 11pm. The candles. The trumpets. For the past, say, 15+ years, we have been going, and every year, we’d always get there right at 11:00, throwing elbows, and staking out our pew, as it is always standing room only. And don’t even bother coming at 11:15…because there will be no parking and you’re guaranteed to be standing – two deep – in the…
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REBELLING AGAINST THE LORD IS COSTLY. The divine law of consequences is that people reap what they sow, more than they sow, and later than they sow. And the principle is unchangeable whether you believe in God or not.
A prevailing attitude of our modern culture is that rules prevent people from having a good time. That is certainly not the Lord’s intention. In fact, He offers us true freedom through a relationship with Him.
Our loving heavenly Father desires to keep His children growing in their faith and safe from the devil’s temptations and the worldly influences. He does that by limiting our actions and commanding that we follow certain laws and principles, which He has designed for our good. There is no greater pleasure or source of contentment than serving Him.
Rebellion, on the other hand, is a form of slavery. By defying the Lord’s authority in some areas of our life, we are allowing the enemy to shackle us. We may not initially feel the constraint of His trap but keep in mind that divine law of consequences.
Eventually, we will be heavily burdened by our sin. Whether the the penalty ends up being carried out in the body, mind, heart, or spirit, we will find ourselves distracted from wholly serving the Lord. (Matt. 6:24)
God takes disobedience seriously because the consequences are so grave. As the Sovereign of the universe and our loving Father, He has only our best in mind. So rebelling against Him is foolish. Wise men and women live by His Word and obey Him. (Ps. 119.9) source: IN TOUCH, Dr. Charles F. Stanley
I have been called Radical, and I kind of surprised myself, and answered, Yes, I am a Radical I am!
I am RADICAL about my love for my God, my country,my family, and my friends, and I will FIGHT with all I have to try and “protect” and “save” them all from the demons in power!! I am Radical about my love for America and I will FIGHT for her, and I will honor my ancestors by not sitting back and allowing the demons to completely destroy our beloved nation!
I have always been a Rebel, and I have been proud of it. I never wanted to go along with the clique’s, and I have always followed my own path and traveled to the “beat of my own drum”. I am unique. I never give up, when I know that it is God’s will.
I never knew that I was a Radical. I guess that I am. There are a lot worse things to be. Someone who has never failed, must never have tried or done anything. I have failed many, many times in my sixty two years of life.
Definition of Radical:
Simple Definition of radical
: very new and different from what is traditional or ordinary
: very basic and important
: having extreme political or social views that are not shared by most people
Examples of radical in a sentence
The computer has introduced radical innovations.
There are some radical differences between the two proposals.
The new president has made some radical changes to the company.
Source: Merriam-Webster’s Learner’s Dictionary
I believe without a doubt, that our “negative” experiences can help others.
I love the Eagles song: “Get Over It”!
I WAS one of those whiners, angry, and negative.
I did not go dragging into a 12 Step meetings until I was 32.
I spent many years miserable, and placing too much dependence on people, places, and things. I ran from my problems and allowed others to abuse or use me. Today, I stand tall and proud of all the negative things that I have experienced. God allows me to help others with my recovery.
Some can do it through the church, but I found mine in the 12 Step groups. I never felt like I belonged, or that I was good enough. “Different strokes for different folks”. I know without a doubt that God works through people. I owe my life to those people. Today, after almost thirty years, I have a very special and close relationship to my God. God bless you and thanks for posting. It has me in tears missing my mother and daddy, and thanking God everyday that God never gives up on us.
For half of my life, I lived in Fantasy. I was miserable, and depressed. I lived in my past and resentments, and fear about the future. I never lived in today. I thought that I was just doomed to fail, and that God, if there was one, did not love me.
Hope everyone has a happy and healthy Valentine’s Day whether you have a special someone or not. I did not have one for several years, and I felt left out. Remember that this is “just another day”, and life is not perfect.
So, we do the best that we can with what God has given us and “live in today”, and make sure that you don’t make any person your “higher power”, and you place only God number One. God is the only One that will never leave you nor forsake you. Divorces happen, people die, but I believe that God will comfort you because He has me. Just ask.
Keep close to your family and make good friends, because they are ALL that really matter anyway.
The “perfect” love or “perfect” person does NOT exist! It is a Fantasy.
Real love takes work, love, patience, and forgiveness. My husband felt bad because he thought that he had to buy me something. Not true!
Money is NOT everything, believe me I know, I have had it and it did not make me happy. The only true happiness and peace of mind comes from God/Jesus NOT people, places, or things.
News flash…we will never get everything that we want…and that is Selfish! We will get what God gives us…and we need to learn to like whatever He gives us and be grateful for what we have instead of always looking for what else we want.
Be grateful. You have it better than some others do, no matter what you do have or don’t have. Pray Every Day.
Celebrate if you have Real love, and don’t ever take it for granted…because it might be gone, or stolen…just as material possessions are. God’s love is the only constant in the world. Love is our greatest commandment. Remember God loves you no matter what!!
I will always remember that “people” are more important than “things”.
Things can be stolen, destroyed, lost, burned, or flooded. I have been through death, unemployment, disease, divorce, floods, and losing many material possessions in my journey.
My God, my family and friends have helped carry me through all sorts of losses. I cannot imagine how I would have survived without my God, my family, and my friends.
But…I have not lost any family or friends to such horrible events as the INNOCENT VICTIMS have by the 911 ASSAULT on our people and country! There can be NO justification for MURDERING INNOCENT people to try and get revenge for real wrongs or perceived ones. NO MORE EXCUSES FOR UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR!!
The thought crossed my mind today that I needed to “Consider the Source”. I learned it from my program. I have accepted the fact that not everyone is going to love you or like you, so you must consider the source. Some others may try to hurt you, use or abuse you, but you have to be strong and learn to say “No” to their evil ways.
If the evil ones don’t like me that is alright, because their opinion of me does not matter. It only matters what God thinks of me, and I am not on this earth to please the ungodly. My God wants me to speak the TRUTH, whether anyone else wants to hear it or not. Stand my ground, and Speak up against evil. I have always been a writer so I write about the things that are important to me. My God loves me unconditionally and He does not expect me to be perfect. I only have to do the best that I can with what He has given me. September is #RecoveryMonth. Pass it on.
In Life You Will Realize That There Is A Purpose For Everyone You Meet.
Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.
But most important are the ones who bring out the best in you, respect you and accept you for who you are. Those are the ones worth keeping around.
God has put people into my life that have shown me what I do not want to be like, and He has also put the people into my life that have shown me what I do want to become like.
Choose wisely. And…hopefully you will get to the point to where you are tired of paying the consequences for your bad decisions, and so you will learn to make better decisions. God will keep putting you in those situations until you learn your lesson and then you can stop repeating your self defeating actions, that are not in your best interests.
We are powerless over our past, we cannot save the world, we must accept reality and work on what we can change ourselves. Learn from your mistakes, then turn it over to God, ask for forgiveness and let it go. Move on with your life and lessons, and do the best that you can with what God has given you.
Today, Sally, we believe God wants you to know that greatness is your birthright.
Abusers control, manipulate and make you feel like your are the one with the problem. Stand up, Speak out and take back your life. You are NOT to blame!
September is #RecoveryMonth. Pass it on!
Most every time I’m with a group of sober people, someone talks about the things they lost because of their addiction. “I lost my kids, my spouse, job, my truck, my self-respect, etc., etc., etc. to my drug of choice.”
I gotta say that I agree with what an oldtimer used to say about that. He said “I never lost anything because of my drinking. I traded it all. Nothing was more important to me than that next drink, so when the disease demanded that I give away my family and my job, I agreed.”
“Give it away, give it away, give it away, now”
He said “I didn’t lose my wife, I knew right where she was- at my neighbors house! She left me because I wouldn’t stop drinking or acting a fool. I can’t blame her! I didn’t lose my house. It’s right where it’s always been…
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I love your blog. I was looking for information to help me write on my blog, and I came across your blog.
It reminded me of the year 2000 when I left my abusive, psychopathic, stalking husband. I had to leave town to get away from his stalking and to feel safe. You are spot on. No one deserves to be abused and we did not cause it! No more excuses for unacceptable behavior.
I have now been married to the love of my life for ten years. I refused to let my ex hold me down, or disillusion me about men. Not all men are bad or abusive, and we did not cause it, or deserve it. We did NOT choose to be abused!
Does your abusive partner start sentences with ‘If you loved me, you’d…’? When she apologises, is she expert in shifting the blame onto something or someone else (usually you)? Then there’s something BIG that you need to know: It’s not your fault. Yes, really.
Is your abusive partner dodging responsibility?
If you are in an abusive relationship, you will have heard these phrases (or variations of them). I call these the ‘if, only and just’ statements, and they are crafted to shift the blame elsewhere:
- I wouldn’t need to do this if you would listen to me / stop doing that / do things right
- I only act this way because you drive me crazy
- If you really loved me, you wouldn’t do something that you know upsets me so much
- It’s just because I’m stressed out with work that I am short-tempered at home
- If I had a better…
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Amen, praise God that today, I know that I have a choice. When someone pushes my buttons and tries to piss me off, I have a choice, and I can choose to not “react”, or I can “react” and lose my serenity. I value my serenity and peace of mind today.
I choose to live in the “solution” instead of the “problem”. I choose to remove myself from the drama. I cannot change anyone else, but I don’t have to put up with their bad attitudes and actions. I remove myself…I pray…I leave…go to a meeting…visit a friend…or maybe take a vacation.
People have a choice too, and if they choose to continue to live in the “chaos”, that is their choice. I cannot stop others from living in the drama, but I can choose to not participate or live in it with them.
Moma always told us that if we could not say something nice then we should not say anything at all. I think that is some very good advice. It is not that I don’t want to help others, but I have come to accept that I cannot do it for them.
I cannot imagine that when a person finds out that they have a choice, that they would choose to be miserable.
OMG, everyday I am more grateful for the many blessings, that God has put in my life as a result of working my Al-Anon program for thirty years.
God did not promise us that we would not have problems, just that He would help us cope with them by giving us the strength and courage to live through them, or solve them. Just because I have thirty years of recovery does not mean that I am immune to “life problems”.
The number one thing that I want to convey to others is that no one can force anyone else to seek recovery no matter how much they love them.
Until I got miserable enough to seek help, I was not motivated to change and do the “footwork”, therefore I could not grow or improve. Therefore I stayed stuck and miserable. I believed that there was nothing that I could do to change my situation or that I had any choice to make better decisions.
I have been dealing with a lot of problems lately. My husband had his Taver (Heart Valve) surgery on Friday, May 13, 2016. The surgery went wonderful.
We were really worried about whether he would come out of the surgery. Two years ago, there was no help for someone with CHF. Dr. Biswajit Kar, MD – Cardiovascular Disease Specialist at Memorial Hermann, in Houston, Texas. He was the only one that could do the job. Ten years ago, my husband would not have survived his sixtieth birthday without the surgery.
We had prayed for God to be with us, and that we wanted God’s will. Of course, we wanted him to live. So, one more time God showed us that He was still with us. Len survived the surgery, and is recuperating in the Cardiac Intensive Care unit. I do have hope for the future, and he should be able to come home soon. But my husband has to be the one to do the Cardiac Rehab. God, knows that I cannot do it for him. He has to be the one to do the “footwork”. Maybe he will do it, we will see. I know that all I can do is to pray for him.
“In recovering from a dysfunctional family system, I have to pay particular attention to the “me-versus-them” thinking and how it immobilized me. As an adult, I still sometimes lose myself in certain relationships (especially my husband). When I look at it this way, I am reminded that I don’t have to lose myself again, in the disease or in relationships.” source: Hope for Today, Al-Anon Family Group, 2002
It is God’s job to supply the tools or resources for the job, and to grant me the strength to do the job.
It is my job to be willing to do the “footwork” to carry out God’s plan. God works through people.
THY WILL NOT MINE BE DONE