THERE IS A BATTLE GOING ON!

THERE IS A BATTLE GOING ON

THERE IS A BATTLE GOING ON, keep your eyes open and your sword sharp!

I will fight in whatever way that I can to help stop the destruction of our beloved nation by the Liberal, Leftist, Demon-Rat Communists and their EVIL agendas!

Evil manifests itself in many forms. Kill one and another one will take its place. Evil is like a fungus. The good must always fight the evil. There is no way to completely eradicate evil from the world. Just like drug dealers, kill one and there will always be another to take its place. Evil is NOT in the gun, or the knife, or the sword. Evil is in the person. Evil exists in the heart, the mind, and the body of people. It spreads like wildfire. Evil corrodes every part of the host it invades. It spew out hate, anger, pain, and prejudices, violence, cruelty, criticism, and fear. Evil infiltrates the person and in their effort to throw blame off themselves, they blame, rationalize, and make excuses for their evil actions.

lucifer's_rules_radicalsEvil people use the “Saul Alinsky’s Rules for Radicals” to project the blame and accuse others of doing what they are in reality doing themselves. Clinton, Obama, and others use them to try and gain control of us!

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STOP he evil N.W.O. globalists from taking over America or any other country! They are evil, self-centered, and do NOT want what is best for you but what is good for them!

 

 

Did You Know That Whatever You Feed Grows?

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Do you want “Good” in your life? Now, who would not, we think to ourselves.

Choices….if you want “Good” to increase…do and say good things…and …notice what someone does right. Notice what is Right and it increases…it Grows.

I promise if you look at others and notice their good qualities and praise them for it instead of only noticing the bad qualities that we all have…more good. I grew up with alcoholism along with negativity, depression, anger, shame, blaming, and making excuses for their bad choices. I choose “Good”, I choose GOD. 

If I focus on others negative all the time and never notice what they do right or focus on their flaws, then I make me and them both miserable. When I let them know their “Good” qualities and thank them for the “Good” things that they do or say to me, then we both feel better, and we feel love, wanted, needed.

Please, try to not always just complain, criticize, or blame others all the time. It helps no one! In my opinion, anger, resentment, and all other negative things in our life are the “Weeds” in our garden and the twelve steps are the inventory of “good” and “bad”.  BALANCE one of my favorite words. A BALANCE sheet of yourself. Then move on to the Fifth Step.

Focus on others good and make it a point to let them know that you appreciate it. Focus on the Solution instead of the Problem. Help NOT Hurt. “Bloom where you are planted.”

Whatever you feed will grow

 

THY WILL BE DONE!

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It is a really sad day in America when those who try to feed our hungry children are persecuted. Down is up, and Evil and Selfishness are up, and are perceived as Good. It tells us in the Bible, that we are supposed to take care of our own First, then try to help others! In America there are those who have tried to help feed the homeless, and they have been fined and threatened with jail, now that is just Un-American and Un-Christian!! I thank GOD everyday that He answered my prayers and sent us President Trump to help us take back our country from the Demons!

My God, we have hungry and homeless here in America yet our Crooked politicians are trying to help the Illegals and Criminals!

Obama the Terrorist was feeding the ENEMY = satanic muslims! Allah is NOT God! Their allah is the Devil!

Seeing God In Nature

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“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” – Genesis 1:1

Where is your spot? Where is that place that you go and no matter how crazy and chaotic your life has been, that place that will bring you peace and help you to center?

Some people find that place in the mountains. The awesome grandeur of majestic mountains shows God’s power and creativity and it reminds us that the problems of earth can certainly be handled by God.  

Some find a sense of peace and perspective in when they are near the ocean. Again the massive body of water and the consistency of the tide and waves brings peace and comfort. 

Some others enjoy a meadow setting; still others love the varied creativity of the woods. 

Regardless of where the spot is where you feel calmed and closer to God, it is a place where you can appreciate God’s creation… His creativity, His power, His strength and His love. Being in this spot in creation gives you a God moment.  

My serenity spot’s are all of those above. I especially love waterfalls and the woods. I love my jungle. I love trees. My backyard is my jungle, and it is not perfect, but it is my gift from God. There are weeds, and roses have thorns, but I focus on what I have instead of what I don’t have today. I can find peace and serenity in the bird’s singing and all of the greenery cropping up in the Springtime, my favorite time of year. It represents ‘New Life” to me. 

Nature is the art of God. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson 

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The Ruin of Rebellion

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Galations 6:7-10

REBELLING AGAINST THE LORD IS COSTLY. The divine law of consequences is that people reap what they sow, more than they sow, and later than they sow. And the principle is unchangeable whether you believe in God or not.

A prevailing attitude of our modern culture is that rules prevent people from having a good time. That is certainly not the Lord’s intention. In fact, He offers us true freedom through a relationship with Him.  

Our loving heavenly Father desires to keep His children growing in their faith and safe from the devil’s temptations  and the worldly influences. He does that by limiting our actions and commanding that we follow certain laws and principles, which He has designed for our good. There is no greater pleasure or source of contentment than serving Him.

Rebellion, on the other hand, is a form of slavery. By defying the Lord’s authority in  some areas of our life, we are allowing the enemy to shackle us. We may not initially feel the constraint of His trap but keep in mind that divine law of consequences

Eventually, we will be heavily burdened by our sin. Whether the the penalty ends up being carried out in the body, mind, heart, or spirit, we will find ourselves distracted from wholly serving the Lord. (Matt. 6:24) 

God takes disobedience seriously because the consequences are so grave. As the Sovereign of the universe and our loving Father, He has only our best in mind. So rebelling against Him is foolish. Wise men and women live by His Word and obey Him. (Ps. 119.9)  source: IN TOUCH, Dr. Charles F. Stanley

https://www.intouch.org/read/magazine/daily-devotions/the-ruin-of-rebellion

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“Happy are those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or take the path that sinners tread, or sit in the seat of scoffers; but their delight is in the law of the LORD, and on His law they meditate day and night. They are like trees planted by streams of water, which yield their fruit in its season, and their leaves do not wither. In all that they do they prosper.” source: Psalm 1:1-3 

That is not to say that the Godly people do not have problems, because everyone has problems. Just because you do God’s will does not mean that you are immune from problems. It is how we deal with our problems that makes the difference. I live my life to the best of my ability to seek and do God’s will everyday. Since, I have turned my life and my will over to God, I have peace, and serenity where there was chaos and fear, it has been replaced by faith. I will not always get my way, but God never leaves me nor forsakes me. I know that no matter what happens, God will be there with me. I never have to be alone again. Praise be to God.

Let Go And Let GOD Be God

“O our God, will You not exercise judgement upon them? For we have no might to stand against this great company that is coming against us. We do not know what to do, but our eyes are upon You.” ~~2 Chronicles 20:12

Here Jehoshaphat admits to God openly his total inability to deal with the problem. For years I tried very hard to change myself without success. I tried so hard and so long to break bad habits only to fail time and time again. I tried to alter different things in my life, to get prosperity, to make my ministry grow, and to be healed. I remember wanting to give up because I was so exhausted from trying to fight my own battles. I went through all that on a regular basis until I was being really kind of melodramatic about it, trying to impress God with how miserable I was. I said something like, “God, I’ve had it. This is it. I’m through. Nothing I’m doing is working. I give up. I’m not going to do this anymore. Just then, deep inside me, I heard the Holy Spirit say, “Really?” There was real excitement in His voice. That happens because the only time He gets to work in us is when we become so exhausted that we finally decide,  “Instead of trying to do this myself, I’m going to let go and let God be God.” Trying to be God will wear you out fast. Why not give up your own effort and do what Jehoshaphat did in verse 12? Admit to God that you have no might to stand against your enemies and that you don’t know what to do, but you’re looking to Him for direction and deliverance. source: New Day, NEW YOU, Joyce Meyers, 2007

I always have had problems with setting, and keeping boundaries. As a child, I had only two choices: comply or get a beating. In school we had NO choices, it was their way or the highway.  I was NOT allowed to define my own boundaries or to be myself. I was NOT expected to defend myself, because in those days, the teachers and doctors were god and were never wrong. And…whatever they said was the law.

I believe my addictions began about the age of twelve. I used to escape a critical, confining, and controlling environment through my addictions. I did not believe there was a god, or else I was such a horrible child that I deserved to treated the way that I was, so I wanted no part of him or established religion.

In my recovery, I found God, because I had tried living my life my way, and I had hit bottom in order to be desperate enough to give into something that I thought was make-believe and not real. I was allowed choices. I could go on to the bitter end, or try this god-thing.

I was allowed to choose the “higher power” that I needed for me. I chose one that was not a hateful, abusive, critical, condemning, controlling God, but a loving and forgiving one. I had to stop “playing god”.  I am NOT God, so it is NOT my job but God’s job.

Through the years, I have learned to let go a lot sooner, and stop playing God. I asked for help, instead of suffering alone. I was taught that all I have to do is to do the best that I can, and leave the results up to God. We have to do the “footwork” or the next “right thing”.

I make a lot better decisions today and I have a lot more peace and serenity as a by product of “right living”.  No, I am not perfect because I am human. I am a Human Being, not a Human Doing. I almost died trying to be perfect, and still today I have “defects of character” that I am working with God on. 

Who Are You??

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You are not what you label yourself to be for you are your own worst critic
You are not what others label you either for they don’t know who you are
You ARE what GOD says you ARE for HE created YOU

YOU ARE —

Chosen — John 15:16-19, Ephesians 1:4
Loved — Romans 5:8, 1 John 4:10, John 3:16-17
Righteous — 2 Corinthians 5:21
Forgiven — 1 John 1:9, Proverbs 28:13, Ephesians 1:7
Holy — Hebrews 10:10, John 17:19
New — 2 Corinthians 5:17
God’s Child — Isaiah 43:1, John 1:12, Romans 8:15-17

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Loving and Honoring Yourself Is NOT Selfish!

LOVE YOURSELF

As a child I was taught to not be selfish and think about all the other starving children or orphans. It was drilled into me that I should not think about myself, and to only think about others. I was so miserable, and I lived in constant chaos. I hated school! I lost my identity about the age of twelve when my addictions began.

No one told me to be good to me, or that it was ok for me to think about my needs too. I became an “enabler” and a “Co-Dependent” person. I hated me because I was never perfect, and could never live up to the expectations set on me by my parents. I grew to hate me and magnified all my flaws and did not look at the good things about me. I was terrified of being “abandoned” and not being loved, or being different from others. I allowed others to define me because I had no definition of myself, except so and so’s daughter, so and so’s wife. It was not alright for me to be me, or for me to choose who I wanted to be. I lived in Fantasy instead of Reality, because I hated myself and my life so much that I escaped the pain through my addictions. I had an “addictive personality”. 

Praise God, in my recovery, I have learned that I have a choice, and I can choose who I want to be, where I want to live, what I want to do, and that I AM Special, Loved, Wanted, and Needed, “Just as I am”. I am not Selfish, but I think of me less.

My program taught me how to have relationships with the priorities in order of number one God, then myself, and then others. I don’t have to give up me to be loved by you. I can be happy serving God, but taking care of me and my family too. We are supposed to take care of ourselves first then others. Like the example of the oxygen mask, if I don’t take care of me then I am not strong enough to help others. I cannot save the world.

C.S. Lewis

God As We Understood Him…

 

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I thank God everyday, that in my recovery program, I was told that I had a choice, and that I could choose the type “higher power” that I wanted or needed for me. Some just switched addictions to a person or substituted another kind of drug besides alcohol. Some used a door knob for their “higher power”. Sorry, that would not work for me. I used my group and sponsor for my “higher power” at first. They did not push God or religion on me. They knew that would just serve to piss me off, and maybe run me off and kill me.

If they had pushed God or Jesus on me, I would have cursed them out. I came from the street, and I was angry at God! I tried several different religions. I did not want someone else’s opinion of what God wanted for me. My God had to love no matter what, “with warts and all”. I chose a loving and kind God that loved me no matter what. Like the gentleman that He is, He never tried to push Himself on me. He gave me “free will”. I did not want a “controlling” or “critical” God.

I blamed God for my messed up life and all my pain and misery. I had tried organized religion but for me it was not enough. Some of us are sicker than others.

Some people might get sober through the church, but for me I did not dress like they wanted me to, or talk like they wanted me to, and I believed that I had to be perfect to be accepted. I could not take a chance of being rejected or judged, because I hated myself enough already, and believed that I had to be perfect to be loved or accepted. 

And…that is one of the reasons that I want people to be made to pay their consequences for their bad behaviors and to not enable them. If people had continued to enable me and cover up for my bad decisions, then I may not ever have gotten sober or have been motivated to change my life.

How It Works
From Chapter 5 of the Big Book

RARELY HAVE WE seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less than average. There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest.

Our stories disclose in a general way what we used to be like, what happened and what we are like now. If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it — then you are ready to take certain steps.

At some of these we balked. We though we could find and easier, softer way. But we could not. With all the earnestness at our command, we beg of you to be fearless and thorough from the very start. Some of us have held on to our old ideas and the result was nil until we let go absolutely.

Remember we deal with alcohol — cunning, baffling, powerful! Without help it is too much for us. But there is One who has all power — that One is God. May you find Him now!

Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning point. We asked His protection and care with complete abandon.

Here are the steps we took, which are suggested as a program of recovery:

  1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Our description of the alcoholic, the chapter to the agnostic, and our personal adventures before and after make clear three pertinent ideas:

a) That we were alcoholics and could not manage our own lives.
b) That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism.
c) That God could and would if He were sought.

Copyright© Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.

Father Martin, a recovering alcoholic himself and his recovery helped me so much. I figured if he could do it so could I. He told me that, “For an alcoholic, if they use the Bible and the Big Book, and adhere to the Ten Commandments, then they are doing God’s will”. 

Today, my “higher power” is God and Jesus. I have twenty eight years sober, and at about three years sober I chose to go back to church. I do sometimes go to church, but the program is where I got my sanity and serenity, through my sponsor and working the steps. I even chaired a twelve step Bible Study class for a few years, but I did not push my “conception” of God or my religion onto others. I gave them the same freedom that I was “freely given” by others that came before me.

Father Martin Remembered

“We all need a hero, and Father Martin is mine.”  –Bill W.  

 http://www.higherpowerstudios.com/father_martin.html

Thank God, We DO Have Choices!! I Choose Serenity!

NOT MY MONKEY, NOT MY CIRCUS

I always ask myself, “Is it my problem, or theirs?” Then if it’s someone I love or that I am responsible for, I ask myself, “If I got involved would it help or harm?” I try to do God’s will, and I try to help not harm with my actions. I had to learn how to not enable them.

Everyone needs to make their own decisions and they need to pay their own consequences too. If people continue to rescue or enable them, then they will not learn the lessons that God has for them.

Then I can decide if I want to make it “my problem too!” If it is not my problem, or there is nothing that I can do to change it, then I turn it over to God, and I leave it in His hands. God’s will be done. 

Also say “I am not a character in your soap opera.” or  “Your soap opera was cancelled for lack of audience.”

A Spiritual Renewal

There must be a spiritual renewal of your thoughts and attitudes.

You must display a new nature because you are a new person, created in God’s likeness–righteous, holy, and true.

So put away all falsehood and “tell your neighbor the truth” because we belong to each other.

And “don’t sin by letting anger gain control over you.”

Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a mighty foothold to the devil.

source: Ephesians 4: 23-27 NLT

The Expert In Anything Was Once The Beginner~Someday

THE EXPERT WAS ONCE A BEGINNERSOMEDAY

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I always said Someday I will be happy.

Someday I’ll be more creative.

Someday I will write my story.

Someday I will find someone to love me the way that I need to be loved.

Someday I will start painting whatever I want to on my canvas called “Life”.

Someday I will be able to pay my bills.

Someday. . .

Someday I will make lots of money. 

Someday I will sing with my Dad.

Someday I won’t want to die anymore.

Someday I will figure out what I want to be when I grow up. 

Someday. . .

Someday I will think I’m special and I do have someone unique to offer the world. 

Someday I will believe that I don’t have to be perfect.

Someday I will live life to the fullest.

Accepting life as it comes, changing what I can and accepting what I can’t.

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GOD MADE ME NOT JUST A SURVIVOR BUT A THRIVER!!

SURVIVOR VS VICTIM

Today, Sally, we believe God wants you to know that …you were created to be alive.
You weren’t made to simply survive until you die. Live it up, embrace life.

This entire planet exists for all God’s creatures, – and that includes you. Don’t wait to start living, begin right now, with your very next breath. There are many wonderful experiences waiting for you, so get going.

I BELIEVE THAT GOD MADE ME NOT JUST A SURVIVOR BUT A THRIVER!!

In my recovery, I found out that I had a choice whether I wanted to continue to live in the anger and resentments, or did I want to get help and get better. AA = Attitude Adjustment.

I just told a friend last night, that “Why would anyone choose to stay miserable and angry, and die drunk?? And…not take what was so freely given to us and countless others.

I wanted it ALL, so I had to do as I was told to, and I attended meetings, got a sponsor, read the literature, and WORKED the steps, ALL twelve of them in order. We offer to cheerfully refund your misery if you do not want to get help or change. 

I have heard people say, “Oh, AA does not work, I got drunk again.” I say, “No, you chose to continue to run your own life instead of doing God’s will, and if you don’t do the footwork = work the steps, then, yes, many do drink again and die a slow painful death.”

In recovery:

1. I went back to college and graduated with honors with a Bachelor of Science degree.

2. God gave me the love of my life.

3. God and my parents gave me a home.

4. I have learned to be content in whatsoever state I am in.

5. I no longer choose to do things that cause me pain and chaos and consequences. 

6. I do NOT want to continue to pay the consequences! I chose sobriety and serenity.

I have learned that if people continue to ENABLE and cover up for an alcoholic/addict, then they may never recover or change, and many die that way. Please, STOP enabling them and allow them to hit their bottom. Give them to God!  

AA is NOT a Self Help Program!

If I could have fixed myself, then why would I need God/Jesus, or Alcoholics Anonymous?

In fact, that is why I don’t like people calling AA a “self help” program, it is NOT!

It is all about seeking God and learning how to get out of “self”.  

Our twelve step program is all about seeking God. It teaches us to number one seek a relationship with God, number two with ourselves, and then with others. 

The ABC’s of AA = Admit, Begin, and Continue. God works through people.

I just watched several friends celebrate multiple years of sobriety last night. One had 29 and the other 21 years sobriety and serenity.

God did that, and it did not happen overnight. Many an alcoholic has gone out and died trying to do it by themselves. This is a “We” program NOT a “Me” program. We MUST do the “footwork”, and there are five things that an alcoholic must do if they want to stay sober:

1. Put the plug in the jug

2. Go to meetings, and associate with sober alcoholics

3. Read the Big Book and Twelve Step Book

4. Get a sponsor

5. Work the twelve steps

 

One Day At A Time

One Day at a Time - RosesOne Day at a Time, is one of our slogans in the twelve step program that I belong to. It is one of my favorite, but it was the hardest for me to learn to live by.

I spent thirty years living in yesterday, and tomorrow, but never today. Either I was living in the past whining and complaining about what all others had done to me, therefore living in my resentments and miserable; or I was living in the future, terrified of what could or would happen. I had no faith, so I lived in fear.  I existed from crisis to crisis. 

It took years of practice in recovery to really….know the meaning of it. The Serenity Prayer helped me to know what to focus on that I could change, and what things that I could not change. 

It does not mean that we do not plan for the future or prepare for tomorrow. We just do our best to know God’s will, so that we can do God’s will. We take it a step at a time, one day at a time.  We must do the “footwork”.  We grow, one day at a time in our recovery too. We do not get well overnight.

If you want a job, then you must prepare and educate yourself, then follow through by creating a resume and applying for the jobs that you qualify for.  Pray for God to direct you to the job that He wants you to have.  

I make a list of what I need to do for the day, and I arrange them in order of priority, the most important first.  I pay what bills that I can, like our water bill, so that we have water to drink, clean, and bathe with.  I consider that a priority for me.

Everyone is different, so some may choose to spend their money on junk food, cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, gambling, or crap that they do not need. But…if you are one of those people…be prepared to do without other things…and don’t expect others to pay you bills…or allow you to live rent free.

I used to manage apartments, and you would not believe how many people would spend their money on getting drunk or high, and not pay their rent or utilities. For me, that is a priority, I pay my living expenses first, then if there is any left I buy groceries or gas.

I knew a woman that did not pay her water bill for six months, while she used another woman’s water.  Then, when they decided to cut off her water, she was pissed. What? It is not someone else’s job to pay your bills!

I told her that she should be grateful that the woman was nice enough to allow her to use her water at all, and that it was not her job to pay your water bill.  She did not see anything wrong with using the other woman . I did.

Of course, she made excuses! Oh, she had to pay other bills. No, she did not have to pay other bills, if there was not enough income for the internet, cable, junk food, and cigarettes, then she should do without others do.

I offered to help her with a budget, to no avail. Ten years later, she is whining about not being able to pay her cable bill and internet. It is sad, but some people never grow up.

I thank God everyday, that I had responsible parents who paid their living expenses first, fed and clothed their six children before the non essential things. My Daddy made very little money, and Mother was a stay at home Mother. We were taught that if we could not afford it, then we did not need it, and could live without it. We ate beans and cornbread and cheap meals a lot.

My childhood has prepared me to “Live life on life’s terms” not mine. My Big Book stated the same thing. We may be broke as hell, but we will have water and a roof over our heads.  I love the quote by Saint Paul, “I have learned in whatsoever state that I am in, therewith to be content.”

 

Be Proud Of Who You Are. No Matter What Race You Are!

BE PROUD OF YOUR RACE

Be proud of whomever you are, whether it be your race, sex, or nationality. Anyone can be a Racist!

God made you just as you are. If He had wanted you to be any other race, sex, or nationality, He would have made you that way. God does NOT make mistakes! You are NOT a mistake!

Do NOT allow others to make you feel inferior or less than you are.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Stop allowing the racists and hate-filled people to define who you are.

You have a choice in life. You can either accept yourself like you are, or you can change some things about you, that you do not like.

You are NOT less than anyone else! No matter how much money that they have, or what they do for a living. My mother always told us that there was honor in any kind of work.

God made each of us with special talents, and He expects us to NOT hide them, waste them, or to allow others to make us feel guilty for having them.

Be the best that you can be, that is all that God asks of us.

NOT Self-Confidence, God-Confidence!

“Put no confidence or dependence [on what we are] in the flesh and on outward privileges and physical advantages and external appearance.”–Philippians 3:3

Everyone talks about self-confidence.

All kinds of seminars are available on confidence, both in the secular world and the church world.

Confidence is usually referred to as “self-confidence”, because we all know that we need self-confidence to feel good about ourselves if we are ever to accomplish anything in life.  

We have been taught  that all people have a basic need to believe in themselves.

However this is a misconception. 

Actually we do not need to believe in ourselves–we need to believe in Jesus in us.

We do not dare feel good about ourselves apart from Him. When the apostle Paul instructs us to “put no confidence…in the flesh,” he means just what he says—do not put confidence in yourself or in anything you can do apart from Jesus. 

We do not need self confidence; we need God-confidence!

Many people spend their whole lives climbing the ladder of success only to find that when they get to the top, their ladder was leaning against the wrong building.  

Others struggle, trying to behave well enough to develop a measure of confidence in themselves, only to endure repeated failures. 

Both of these activities produce the same results: emptiness.

I have found that most people fall into one of two categories:

1. they never accomplish anything, no matter how hard they try, and end up hating themselves because of their lack of achievement; or

2. they have enough natural talent to accomplish great things, but take all the credit for their achievements, which fill them with pride.

Either way, they are a failure—in the eyes of God.

The only truly successful person in God’s eyes is the individual who knows he is nothing in himself, but everything in Christ. Our pride and boasting are to be in Jesus alone, and He is to have all the glory (credit due) for whatever accomplishments we may achieve.–source: New Day New You, Joyce Meyer, 2007

The thought for the day was just what God knew I needed to read. With my depression, I was always insecure and I did not believe that I could ever do enough to please people.

Today, because of my recovery, I know that I do not have to please other people, just God.

We Must NEVER Give Our Children Everything That They Want…

We must NEVER give our children everything that they want….because if we do then they do not learn that life is NOT fair…and we cannot always get our way…or what we want. Then they may think that if they want something, all they have to do is whine and pitch a fit and they will get whatever they want. That is how we ended up with a “Entitlement Generation”. 

  • Reality is…bad things happen to good people.
  • Reality is…the world does not revolve around you.
  • Reality is…if we constantly expect to get our way…we will constantly be disappointed.
  • Reality is…the world owes you nothing.
  • Reality is…your parents owe you nothing.
  • Reality is…life is NOT fair.
  • Reality is…if you do not learn that sometimes you will lose…sometimes you will win.
  • Reality is…it is NOT hard working taxpayers job to support you.
  • Reality is…you are responsible for your children NOT the government, ie taxpayers.
  • Reality is…if you don’t discipline your children…then society through the jails and prisons will.
  • Reality is…without teaching our children about God, Honesty, Morals and Manners…they will grow up to be spoiled brats…and a menace to society.

My Husband, The Light of my Life

My husband, “the light of my life.”

He is 58 and I am 60. God really does know what He is doing. We are able to be at home together with my “forced retirement”.

At first, I felt guilty, because I had always worked since I was 12. I was brought up to believe, that if I wanted something that I had to work for it.

Now, God wants me to care for my husband, obviously because that is where I am, for now, and I love it. Not the part about him being sick but the part about having him to share my life. In my program for living, and the twelve steps, I have learned to “accept life on life’s terms”, and so I am content with whatever God has given me. 

I am so grateful for what God has given me, and for what He has taken away too–the chaos, insanity, and the loneliness. In its place God has given me serenity, peace, strength, and solace.  

I thank God everyday for my 27 years in recovery, because without it I would not be doing as well on this “acceptance” thing. I accept the fact that I am NOT God, and that my husband is in God’s hands.  I am grateful for every minute that He gives me with him until God calls him home.

The old me would be living in “self pity” and crying and whining around about how God made me wait so long for my hubby, and the fact that he is sick. I only saw the “bad” in my life.

Someone coined it, a “New Pair of Glasses”, they wrote a book about it. I have not thought about that book in a long while. I will have to get it out and look at it again.

I am looking through a new pair of glasses, and I am seeing what is “right” with my life instead of always looking for what is “wrong” in my life. It makes for a lot more peace and serenity.

Excellent book for anyone, even if you are not in Recovery.