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I have been called Radical, and I kind of surprised myself, and answered, Yes, I am a Radical I am!
I am RADICAL about my love for my God, my country,my family, and my friends, and I will FIGHT with all I have to try and “protect” and “save” them all from the demons in power!! I am Radical about my love for America and I will FIGHT for her, and I will honor my ancestors by not sitting back and allowing the demons to completely destroy our beloved nation!
I have always been a Rebel, and I have been proud of it. I never wanted to go along with the clique’s, and I have always followed my own path and traveled to the “beat of my own drum”. I am unique. I never give up, when I know that it is God’s will.
I never knew that I was a Radical. I guess that I am. There are a lot worse things to be. Someone who has never failed, must never have tried or done anything. I have failed many, many times in my sixty two years of life.
Definition of Radical:
Simple Definition of radical
: very new and different from what is traditional or ordinary
: very basic and important
: having extreme political or social views that are not shared by most people
Examples of radical in a sentence
The computer has introduced radical innovations.
There are some radical differences between the two proposals.
The new president has made some radical changes to the company.
Source: Merriam-Webster’s Learner’s Dictionary
I believe without a doubt, that our “negative” experiences can help others.
I love the Eagles song: “Get Over It”!
I WAS one of those whiners, angry, and negative.
I did not go dragging into a 12 Step meetings until I was 32.
I spent many years miserable, and placing too much dependence on people, places, and things. I ran from my problems and allowed others to abuse or use me. Today, I stand tall and proud of all the negative things that I have experienced. God allows me to help others with my recovery.
Some can do it through the church, but I found mine in the 12 Step groups. I never felt like I belonged, or that I was good enough. “Different strokes for different folks”. I know without a doubt that God works through people. I owe my life to those people. Today, after almost thirty years, I have a very special and close relationship to my God. God bless you and thanks for posting. It has me in tears missing my mother and daddy, and thanking God everyday that God never gives up on us.
For half of my life, I lived in Fantasy. I was miserable, and depressed. I lived in my past and resentments, and fear about the future. I never lived in today. I thought that I was just doomed to fail, and that God, if there was one, did not love me.
Hope everyone has a happy and healthy Valentine’s Day whether you have a special someone or not. I did not have one for several years, and I felt left out. Remember that this is “just another day”, and life is not perfect.
So, we do the best that we can with what God has given us and “live in today”, and make sure that you don’t make any person your “higher power”, and you place only God number One. God is the only One that will never leave you nor forsake you. Divorces happen, people die, but I believe that God will comfort you because He has me. Just ask.
Keep close to your family and make good friends, because they are ALL that really matter anyway.
The “perfect” love or “perfect” person does NOT exist! It is a Fantasy.
Real love takes work, love, patience, and forgiveness. My husband felt bad because he thought that he had to buy me something. Not true!
Money is NOT everything, believe me I know, I have had it and it did not make me happy. The only true happiness and peace of mind comes from God/Jesus NOT people, places, or things.
News flash…we will never get everything that we want…and that is Selfish! We will get what God gives us…and we need to learn to like whatever He gives us and be grateful for what we have instead of always looking for what else we want.
Be grateful. You have it better than some others do, no matter what you do have or don’t have. Pray Every Day.
Celebrate if you have Real love, and don’t ever take it for granted…because it might be gone, or stolen…just as material possessions are. God’s love is the only constant in the world. Love is our greatest commandment. Remember God loves you no matter what!!
I will always remember that “people” are more important than “things”.
Things can be stolen, destroyed, lost, burned, or flooded. I have been through death, unemployment, disease, divorce, floods, and losing many material possessions in my journey.
My God, my family and friends have helped carry me through all sorts of losses. I cannot imagine how I would have survived without my God, my family, and my friends.
But…I have not lost any family or friends to such horrible events as the INNOCENT VICTIMS have by the 911 ASSAULT on our people and country! There can be NO justification for MURDERING INNOCENT people to try and get revenge for real wrongs or perceived ones. NO MORE EXCUSES FOR UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR!!
The thought crossed my mind today that I needed to “Consider the Source”. I learned it from my program. I have accepted the fact that not everyone is going to love you or like you, so you must consider the source. Some others may try to hurt you, use or abuse you, but you have to be strong and learn to say “No” to their evil ways.
If the evil ones don’t like me that is alright, because their opinion of me does not matter. It only matters what God thinks of me, and I am not on this earth to please the ungodly. My God wants me to speak the TRUTH, whether anyone else wants to hear it or not. Stand my ground, and Speak up against evil. I have always been a writer so I write about the things that are important to me. My God loves me unconditionally and He does not expect me to be perfect. I only have to do the best that I can with what He has given me. September is #RecoveryMonth. Pass it on.
In Life You Will Realize That There Is A Purpose For Everyone You Meet.
Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.
But most important are the ones who bring out the best in you, respect you and accept you for who you are. Those are the ones worth keeping around.
God has put people into my life that have shown me what I do not want to be like, and He has also put the people into my life that have shown me what I do want to become like.
Choose wisely. And…hopefully you will get to the point to where you are tired of paying the consequences for your bad decisions, and so you will learn to make better decisions. God will keep putting you in those situations until you learn your lesson and then you can stop repeating your self defeating actions, that are not in your best interests.
We are powerless over our past, we cannot save the world, we must accept reality and work on what we can change ourselves. Learn from your mistakes, then turn it over to God, ask for forgiveness and let it go. Move on with your life and lessons, and do the best that you can with what God has given you.
Today, Sally, we believe God wants you to know that greatness is your birthright.
Abusers control, manipulate and make you feel like your are the one with the problem. Stand up, Speak out and take back your life. You are NOT to blame!
September is #RecoveryMonth. Pass it on!
Most every time I’m with a group of sober people, someone talks about the things they lost because of their addiction. “I lost my kids, my spouse, job, my truck, my self-respect, etc., etc., etc. to my drug of choice.”
I gotta say that I agree with what an oldtimer used to say about that. He said “I never lost anything because of my drinking. I traded it all. Nothing was more important to me than that next drink, so when the disease demanded that I give away my family and my job, I agreed.”
“Give it away, give it away, give it away, now”
He said “I didn’t lose my wife, I knew right where she was- at my neighbors house! She left me because I wouldn’t stop drinking or acting a fool. I can’t blame her! I didn’t lose my house. It’s right where it’s always been…
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I love your blog. I was looking for information to help me write on my blog, and I came across your blog.
It reminded me of the year 2000 when I left my abusive, psychopathic, stalking husband. I had to leave town to get away from his stalking and to feel safe. You are spot on. No one deserves to be abused and we did not cause it! No more excuses for unacceptable behavior.
I have now been married to the love of my life for ten years. I refused to let my ex hold me down, or disillusion me about men. Not all men are bad or abusive, and we did not cause it, or deserve it. We did NOT choose to be abused!
Does your abusive partner start sentences with ‘If you loved me, you’d…’? When she apologises, is she expert in shifting the blame onto something or someone else (usually you)? Then there’s something BIG that you need to know: It’s not your fault. Yes, really.
Is your abusive partner dodging responsibility?
If you are in an abusive relationship, you will have heard these phrases (or variations of them). I call these the ‘if, only and just’ statements, and they are crafted to shift the blame elsewhere:
- I wouldn’t need to do this if you would listen to me / stop doing that / do things right
- I only act this way because you drive me crazy
- If you really loved me, you wouldn’t do something that you know upsets me so much
- It’s just because I’m stressed out with work that I am short-tempered at home
- If I had a better…
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Amen, praise God that today, I know that I have a choice. When someone pushes my buttons and tries to piss me off, I have a choice, and I can choose to not “react”, or I can “react” and lose my serenity. I value my serenity and peace of mind today.
I choose to live in the “solution” instead of the “problem”. I choose to remove myself from the drama. I cannot change anyone else, but I don’t have to put up with their bad attitudes and actions. I remove myself…I pray…I leave…go to a meeting…visit a friend…or maybe take a vacation.
People have a choice too, and if they choose to continue to live in the “chaos”, that is their choice. I cannot stop others from living in the drama, but I can choose to not participate or live in it with them.
Moma always told us that if we could not say something nice then we should not say anything at all. I think that is some very good advice. It is not that I don’t want to help others, but I have come to accept that I cannot do it for them.
I cannot imagine that when a person finds out that they have a choice, that they would choose to be miserable.
OMG, everyday I am more grateful for the many blessings, that God has put in my life as a result of working my Al-Anon program for thirty years.
God did not promise us that we would not have problems, just that He would help us cope with them by giving us the strength and courage to live through them, or solve them. Just because I have thirty years of recovery does not mean that I am immune to “life problems”.
The number one thing that I want to convey to others is that no one can force anyone else to seek recovery no matter how much they love them.
Until I got miserable enough to seek help, I was not motivated to change and do the “footwork”, therefore I could not grow or improve. Therefore I stayed stuck and miserable. I believed that there was nothing that I could do to change my situation or that I had any choice to make better decisions.
I have been dealing with a lot of problems lately. My husband had his Taver (Heart Valve) surgery on Friday, May 13, 2016. The surgery went wonderful.
We were really worried about whether he would come out of the surgery. Two years ago, there was no help for someone with CHF. Dr. Biswajit Kar, MD – Cardiovascular Disease Specialist at Memorial Hermann, in Houston, Texas. He was the only one that could do the job. Ten years ago, my husband would not have survived his sixtieth birthday without the surgery.
We had prayed for God to be with us, and that we wanted God’s will. Of course, we wanted him to live. So, one more time God showed us that He was still with us. Len survived the surgery, and is recuperating in the Cardiac Intensive Care unit. I do have hope for the future, and he should be able to come home soon. But my husband has to be the one to do the Cardiac Rehab. God, knows that I cannot do it for him. He has to be the one to do the “footwork”. Maybe he will do it, we will see. I know that all I can do is to pray for him.
“In recovering from a dysfunctional family system, I have to pay particular attention to the “me-versus-them” thinking and how it immobilized me. As an adult, I still sometimes lose myself in certain relationships (especially my husband). When I look at it this way, I am reminded that I don’t have to lose myself again, in the disease or in relationships.” source: Hope for Today, Al-Anon Family Group, 2002
It is God’s job to supply the tools or resources for the job, and to grant me the strength to do the job.
It is my job to be willing to do the “footwork” to carry out God’s plan. God works through people.
THY WILL NOT MINE BE DONE
“Our true home is in the present moment.
To live in the present moment is a miracle.
The miracle is not to walk on water.
The miracle is to walk on the green earth in the present moment,
To appreciate the peace and beauty that are available now.
Peace is all around us-
In the world and in nature-
And within us-
In our bodies and in our spirits.
Once we learn to touch this peace,
We will be healed and transformed.
It is not a matter of faith,
It is a matter of practice. “
source: The Twelve Step Prayer Book, written and compiled by Bill P. and Lisa D, 2004, Hazelden, http://hazelden.org
I love this song. When I was going through some very challenging times a few years ago, this song made me want to dance in the mall, where I heard it the first time. I hope it inspires at least a few of you out there the same way. Paulette L Motzko April 15th, 2016 […]
If you have been around the rooms of a twelve step program then you probably have heard of the term dry drunk, but what does that exactly mean? Basically, a dry drunk is an alcoholic that is sober but still acts like they did when they were drinking. They are usually angry and miserable most of the time and appear to be white knuckling through life just to not drink and be happy. This is why a program of recovery for alcoholics and addicts is suggested.
Signs and Characteristics of a Dry Drunk
A dry drunk will start to show signs of anger, depression, discontentment, irritability and restlessness if they are not working on themselves. The hopelessness that they begin to feel starts to make them act out in unhealthy ways, which may in fact start to resemble behaviors they had when they were still drinking or using. Although the dry drunk isn’t drinking or using, they may no longer be motivated to stay clean and sober. This can happen because of a few different things: something happened where they lost all hope, they built a resentment, they believe that they don’t need to work any steps, they experienced a setback, etc. Whatever the reason for this syndrome, it can descend very rapidly and may lead to a relapse. The good news is that there are ways to overcome dry drunk syndrome.
How To Get Out Of The Dry Drunk Funk
Awareness of actions and a desire to change
Work a program of recovery (calling a sponsor, working the 12-steps, going to meetings, and helping others)
Build a stable sober support network
Maintain a relationship with a higher power
Learn new skills and hobbies
“We must no longer be children, tossed to and fro and blown about by every wind of doctrine, by people’s trickery, by their craftiness in deceitful scheming. But speaking the truth in love, we must grow up in every way into Him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and knitted together by every ligament with which it is equipped, as each part is working properly, promotes the body’s growth in building itself up in love.” Ephesians 4:14-16
As a child I dreamed of being Peter Pan, which was very confusing for me, since I was a girl. I wondered if I was odd or queer, because I wanted to be like Peter Pan, and be able to fly. I lived in my make believe world, because I was not happy in reality. I read romance novels and fairy tales. I longed for a world that had peace and love, and no one was hurt or hungry. Today, I realize that it was an Ideal but not Reality. I was a Dreamer. We can help some people, but we cannot save the world. Through my recovery, I have learned that I can help some people, the people that God puts in my path, but I am not God and I cannot save everyone.
I totally disagree with this quote! Our dreams sometimes come true, if it is God’s will, and we do the footwork. But if it is not God’s will, then it will never happen. People cannot always get whatever they want just by sacrificing everything else for it. I do not like this quote! No matter how much a person wishes for something or sacrifices for it, if it is not to be, then it will not happen.
Children need to be taught that they will not always get what they want in life. And…that in life there will always be “good” and “evil”, because that is the world that we live in. Life is NOT fair! If it were there would NOT be so much evil in the world. They need to be taught to celebrate the “good” and be grateful for it, and accept the bad. To grow up means that they must accept the responsibility for their own lives, and stop blaming others for their problems.
If they fail to “grow up”, then they will be stuck in the Victim mode, they will be volunteering for others to run their lives, and they will be at the mercy of others’s choices. It reduces their choices in life.
I choose to make my own choices, and to not follow the crowd. I choose to become a Victor instead of a Victim!