Loving and Honoring Yourself Is NOT Selfish!

LOVE YOURSELF

As a child I was taught to not be selfish and think about all the other starving children or orphans. It was drilled into me that I should not think about myself, and to only think about others. I was so miserable, and I lived in constant chaos. I hated school! I lost my identity about the age of twelve when my addictions began.

No one told me to be good to me, or that it was ok for me to think about my needs too. I became an “enabler” and a “Co-Dependent” person. I hated me because I was never perfect, and could never live up to the expectations set on me by my parents. I grew to hate me and magnified all my flaws and did not look at the good things about me. I was terrified of being “abandoned” and not being loved, or being different from others. I allowed others to define me because I had no definition of myself, except so and so’s daughter, so and so’s wife. It was not alright for me to be me, or for me to choose who I wanted to be. I lived in Fantasy instead of Reality, because I hated myself and my life so much that I escaped the pain through my addictions. I had an “addictive personality”. 

Praise God, in my recovery, I have learned that I have a choice, and I can choose who I want to be, where I want to live, what I want to do, and that I AM Special, Loved, Wanted, and Needed, “Just as I am”. I am not Selfish, but I think of me less.

My program taught me how to have relationships with the priorities in order of number one God, then myself, and then others. I don’t have to give up me to be loved by you. I can be happy serving God, but taking care of me and my family too. We are supposed to take care of ourselves first then others. Like the example of the oxygen mask, if I don’t take care of me then I am not strong enough to help others. I cannot save the world.

C.S. Lewis

One Day At A Time

One Day at a Time - RosesOne Day at a Time, is one of our slogans in the twelve step program that I belong to. It is one of my favorite, but it was the hardest for me to learn to live by.

I spent thirty years living in yesterday, and tomorrow, but never today. Either I was living in the past whining and complaining about what all others had done to me, therefore living in my resentments and miserable; or I was living in the future, terrified of what could or would happen. I had no faith, so I lived in fear.  I existed from crisis to crisis. 

It took years of practice in recovery to really….know the meaning of it. The Serenity Prayer helped me to know what to focus on that I could change, and what things that I could not change. 

It does not mean that we do not plan for the future or prepare for tomorrow. We just do our best to know God’s will, so that we can do God’s will. We take it a step at a time, one day at a time.  We must do the “footwork”.  We grow, one day at a time in our recovery too. We do not get well overnight.

If you want a job, then you must prepare and educate yourself, then follow through by creating a resume and applying for the jobs that you qualify for.  Pray for God to direct you to the job that He wants you to have.  

I make a list of what I need to do for the day, and I arrange them in order of priority, the most important first.  I pay what bills that I can, like our water bill, so that we have water to drink, clean, and bathe with.  I consider that a priority for me.

Everyone is different, so some may choose to spend their money on junk food, cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, gambling, or crap that they do not need. But…if you are one of those people…be prepared to do without other things…and don’t expect others to pay you bills…or allow you to live rent free.

I used to manage apartments, and you would not believe how many people would spend their money on getting drunk or high, and not pay their rent or utilities. For me, that is a priority, I pay my living expenses first, then if there is any left I buy groceries or gas.

I knew a woman that did not pay her water bill for six months, while she used another woman’s water.  Then, when they decided to cut off her water, she was pissed. What? It is not someone else’s job to pay your bills!

I told her that she should be grateful that the woman was nice enough to allow her to use her water at all, and that it was not her job to pay your water bill.  She did not see anything wrong with using the other woman . I did.

Of course, she made excuses! Oh, she had to pay other bills. No, she did not have to pay other bills, if there was not enough income for the internet, cable, junk food, and cigarettes, then she should do without others do.

I offered to help her with a budget, to no avail. Ten years later, she is whining about not being able to pay her cable bill and internet. It is sad, but some people never grow up.

I thank God everyday, that I had responsible parents who paid their living expenses first, fed and clothed their six children before the non essential things. My Daddy made very little money, and Mother was a stay at home Mother. We were taught that if we could not afford it, then we did not need it, and could live without it. We ate beans and cornbread and cheap meals a lot.

My childhood has prepared me to “Live life on life’s terms” not mine. My Big Book stated the same thing. We may be broke as hell, but we will have water and a roof over our heads.  I love the quote by Saint Paul, “I have learned in whatsoever state that I am in, therewith to be content.”

 

God Wants You To Know….

God wants you to know, that the weight you carry on your shoulders is much too heavy for one human being. Give some of that weight where it belongs, – to God, and have faith that what happens is for the best, whether you understand it or not.

“I’m only one,

But still I am one.

I cannot do everything,
…But still I can do something;
And because I cannot do everything,
I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.” -Anonymous

Women are like Tea Bags to see how strong we are just put us in hot water.

“Be still when you have nothing to say; when genuine passion moves you, say what you’ve got to say, and say it hot.”~~D. H. Lawrence

“In matters of principle, stand like a rock.” ~~Thomas Jefferson

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”~~Albert Einstein

“While writing the story of your life, don’t let anyone else hold your pen.”

“Whatever you are, be a good one.”~~Abraham Lincoln

“Sometimes People Don’t Want To Hear The Truth Because It Destroys Their Illusions.”~~Neitzsche

Blowing someone else’s candle out doesn’t make yours burn any brighter.

Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way you’re right.

“For those who understand, no explanation is needed. For those who do not understand, no explanation is possible.”

God is with us~every step of the way

Josh Groban – You Raise Me Up (Official Music Video)

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“You Raise Me Up” by Josh Groban from Closer, available now.

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“You Raise Me Up” Lyrics:

When I am down and, oh my soul, so weary;
When troubles come and my heart burdened be;
Then, I am still and wait here in the silence,
Until you come and sit awhile with me.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up… To more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up… To more than I can be.

There is no life – no life without its hunger;
Each restless heart beats so imperfectly;
But when you come and I am filled with wonder,
Sometimes, I think I glimpse eternity.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up… To more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up… To more than I can be.

You raise me up… To more than I can be.

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OMG, how I love this song so much! Thank You, Josh Groban for singing my song. The song has me in tears listening to it. I know all the words.

My Mom and Dad were my heroes, they were always there when I needed them. God knows how much I miss them, and how I always let them know how grateful I was to have them in my life for fifty eight years. The song also reminds me of how much God loves me. I never believed that I was worthy enough or perfect enough. Today in recovery, I do know that God has always loved me, and that He never left me, I left Him.  I thank God for our Christian singers and songwriters. 

Our God is an Awesome God!

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MICHAEL W. SMITH
Wow, 7,546,734 views!! Fantastic song. Heard it first on KSBJ, and I sing it a lot.
God has delivered me from my addictions since January 1, 1987.
I woke up this morning singing this song!
Tonight I am celebrating twenty seven years of sobriety and serenity, by the grace of a loving and forgiving God.
I did not do this alone, I had a lot of sober alcoholics and alanons who gave given freely of themselves through the years.
I have gone through death, divorce, unemployment, homelessness, stalking, abuse, and even a cancer scare back in 2000.
I lost my Dad in 2002, my Daddy in 2006, and Moma in 2012, and so now know I have to be the “grown up”.
I always wanted to be one of the big kids, and sit up at the big table with Moma and Daddy.
I just turned sixty this month. It feels so weird.
I am RESPONSIBLE by the grace of God and the twelve steps and therapy.
I learned years ago, that I had a choice, and that if I wanted to just stay sober I could, but for me I wanted it all!
Sobriety and Serenity takes action and doing the “footwork”. I did not want to just sit back and say ok make me well or fix me.
I did not get sobriety and serenity without working the steps.
Many an alcoholic has gotten drunk again by not working the steps and “growing up” and taking Responsibility for themselves.
Many have died drunks.
God gives us free will, so we have the freedom to choose how we want to live.
In our “instant” and “throw away” society people want the “easy way” out for everything.
If you want it all, and don’t want to just be a “dry drunk”, then you must do it all.
Choose life and sobriety.
“Nothing is impossible with God.”

CHRISTmas to me is about Sharing God’s Love With All His Children…Young and Old

Sally T, Sally V, & Melanie L, Alvin, TX, December 20, 2013CHRISTmas to me is about Sharing God‘s Love With All God’s Children. It is about giving not receiving. No matter how little you have, if you look around there are people who have less than you do. God told us that God’s greatest commandment was to love one another. Me and the Girls got a chance to spend the day together just enjoying each others company and catching up what has been going on in each others life’s.
Me, Sally V., and Melanie L. have stayed friends and stayed in touch for years through all our problems, and we each have been each others support system. We never gave up on each other. Us old people need love too.

God has blessed me with friends who have loved me unconditionally like Jesus has loved us. I am truly blessed. All of my needs have been met. I have God in my life and in charge of my life. I am truly loved for exactly who I am. I have family and friends that have loved me through all the problems, all the deaths, lost jobs, lost homes, lost cars, and lost loves. People and things are no longer my “higher power”, and I never have to be alone again unless I want to.

If The World Hates You, Maybe It Is Because You Stand Up For What Is Right And Good, And Evil Hates The Truth!

Free-Christian-Wallpaper-John-15-18-678x509If The World Hates You, Maybe It Is Because You Stand Up For What Is Right And Good, And Evil Hates The Truth! The Devil hates you to speak the Truth, and he does not want you to wake others up to the Truth. He is all things bad and evil, and loves the darkness. God is everything good and Right! He loves the light.

The Temptation of Christ, 1854
The Temptation of Christ, 1854 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

BOLD ENOUGH TO BE LED BY THE SPIRIT

“The wicked flee when no man pursues them, but the [uncompromisingly] righteous are bold as a lion.”~~Proberbs 28:1

Bold Enough to be Led by the Spirit

“If we intend to succeed at being ourselves, we must reach a point where we can be led by the Holy spirit. Only God, through His Spirit, will lead us to succeed and be all we can be. Other people usually won’t, the devil certainly won’t, and we are not able to do it ourselves without God. Being led by the Spirit does not mean that we do not make mistakes or that we are perfect. The Holy Spirit does not make mistakes but we do.

Following the Spirit’s leading is a process which can only be learned by doing. We start by stepping out into things we believe God is putting on our hearts, and we learn by wisdom and experience how to hear more clearly and definitely. 

I say that boldness is required to be led by the Spirit because: 1.) only boldness steps out, and 2.) only boldness can survive making mistakes. When insecure people make mistakes, they often will never try again. Bold people make many mistakes, but their attitude is, “I’m going to keep trying until I learn to do this right.” 

Those who suffer from condemnation usually don’t believe they can hear from God. Even if they think they may have heard from God and do step out, a minor failure is a major setback to them. I am prepared mentally and emotionally not to be defeated by mistakes and problems when they do come. 

Be bold. Be determined that you are going to be all God wants you to be. Don’t hide behind fears and insecurities any longer. If you have already made major blunders in your life and have been living under condemnation for a reason, and I encourage you to take this message personally, just as though God were talking directly to you through it. Be determined to press on toward victory.” ~~~Joyce Meyer

Be Spirit Led

God is not an author of “fear” or “confusion”. If we are afraid or confused, then it probably is not God’s will.

Yves Johnson Ministries

Have you ever read Matt 4:1-2?  We don’t know if Jesus was immediately led to the wilderness or if this was some time after His baptism.  Luke 4:1 says, “Jesus returned from the Jordan River.” What we do know is that He was “led by the Spirit.”  This is an object lesson for us.  Likewise, we must be “led by the Spirit.”  The Spirit will never lead us to a place where we shouldn’t be.  If we lead ourselves, we’re doomed to get lost.

How can you be led by the Spirit?  Seek God’s direction through prayer.  How can you tell if the Spirit is leading you? Is what you’re being “led” to do in line with a Christ-like behavior?  If so, then you’re on the right path.

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Sweetly Broken~~Jeremy Riddle~~Jesus Sacrificed Himself To Save Us All!

Uploaded on Mar 14, 2011

To the cross I look, to the cross I cling
Of its suffering I do drink
Of its work I do sing

On it my Savior both bruised and crushed
Showed that God is love
And God is just

Chorus:
At the cross You beckon me
You draw me gently to my knees, and I am
Lost for words, so lost in love,
I’m sweetly broken, wholly surrendered

What a priceless gift, undeserved life
Have I been given
Through Christ crucified

You’ve called me out of death
You’ve called me into life
And I was under Your wrath
Now through the cross I’m reconciled 

Chorus:

In awe of the cross I must confess
How wondrous Your redeeming love and
How great is Your faithfulness

From the album Sweetly Broken – with my own pictures

St. Mary's Catholic Cemetery, Taylor, TX

 

Your An Overcomer!~~Mandisa~~This Too Shall Pass!

This song has been running through my head, over and over. God is reminding me that “I am an Overcomer”. I am a Survivor. It reminds me not to give up hope! I heard it on KSBJ a few months ago, and I have been singing it ever since.

It is appropriate for the things that I have been going through for the last year and a half. My mother passed away, no job, no money, can’t pay taxes on house, and then a girl texting on her cellular phone wrecked our truck, our one and only automobile. And…my husband has been real ill, and I cannot afford to repair our home like I need to with no money and no job. It has been one thing after another. Sometimes I wonder if God is testing me.  I cannot do anymore than I am doing. I worked my butt off all summer long trying to clean up mother’s yard. I am not as young as I used to be, and I am overloaded being the full time caretaker for my husband. All I can do is pray. I cannot give up hope that soon I will get a job and have some income to take care of my family. 

And…reminds me of “This Too Shall Pass“. Thank God for our Christian singers who remind us that we should never give up hope and inspire us to hang on because tomorrow is another day. 

But For The Grace Of God…There Go I!

But for the grace of God, I could have been born in one of those God forsaken countries that has communism and the satanic cult of islam, instead of our Christian nation. I don’t believe that it was because I deserved it but because of God’s grace.

I know that I cannot save the world or stop evil from happening, but I do have empathy for the poor people that have to live in that evil. I will do whatever I can to wake up more people to the evils of the satanic cult of islam and communism.

But for the grace of God, I was born into a Christian family that taught us to love each other not rape, torture, maim, or kill each other. I have never been homeless, and never gone hungry.

God has truly blessed me. It reminds me to be grateful to be who I am and to live where I live. It reminds me to be grateful that my ancestors were Christian, hard working, and good people. My ancestors fought and died to keep our country free and safe.  Even with all the corruption, communism, and islam infiltrating our country, America is still the best country to live in.

I will help fight to keep America Christian, and Capitalist.  God bless all our veteran heroes, past and present. Thank God for my American heroes and veterans.

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You Can Do What God Has Called You To Do!

GOD'S PLAN-B.B.

“I can do everything God asks me to with the help of Christ who gives me the strength and power.”~~PHILIPPIANS 4:13

“Recently I saw a sign on a church that said, “Trust in God, believe in yourself, and you can do anything.” That is not correct.

There was a time in my life when I would have seen that sign and said, “Amen!” But not anymore. You and I really cannot do anything we want to do. We cannot do anything or everything that everyone else is doing. But we can do everything God has called us to do. And we can be anything God says we can be

We must get balance in this area. We can go to motivational seminars and be told with a lot of emotional hype, “You can do anything. Think you can do it; believe you can do it; say you can do it–and you can do it!” That is true only to a degree. Carried too far, it get off into humanism. We need to speak about ourselves what the Word says about us. 

We can do what we are called to do, what we are gifted to do. There are ways we can learn to recognize the grace gifts that are on our lives. 

I have learned this regarding myself; when I start getting frustrated, I know it is a sign that either I have gotten off into my own works and am no longer receiving God’s grace, or I am trying to to do something for which there was no grace to begin with.” ~~New Day New You,  Joyce Meyer

I spent many years of my life trying to figure out what God wanted me to do or be. I became a people-pleaser and I tried to be what other people thought I should be. I worshiped my mother, so I tried to be what she wanted me to be. All I ever wanted to be was a wife and mother, and have a home like she did. I married an abusive man and found out that I could not have any children. I could not imagine what I was living for.

By God’s grace, we adopted a beautiful baby boy. I had it all, or so I thought, a home, husband, and a baby. I was still unfulfilled, depressed, and unhappy.

I never knew for sure that I was what God had planned for me to be. No matter what I did, I felt it was never enough. My ex-husband drank a lot and cheated on me and he was a workaholic. Neither of us were happy. I wanted a husband who was kind, loving, and faithful. A husband who came home at night and wanted to be with me, and wanted to build a home together. I never had the intimacy that I craved, even when my ex-husband was home, he was “emotionally unavailable” to me. 

In recovery, I began trying to learn what God’s will was for me. I began working with others and “carrying the message”.  So, I decided to become a Substance Abuse Counselor. 

I went to college and became a Counselor. After five years, working in the prison system, I became “burned out” besides being laid off in 1995. I was devastated.  I was unemployed and therefore, could not pay house notes, car notes, and had to move out and sell my home. My son chose to move in with his Dad. God, I felt like such a failure. It is a miracle that I am alive and that I survived, because back then I wanted to die! 

By God’s grace, I had family for a support system. Through my “program for living” I became closer to God and I learned to “accept life on life’s terms” and not my own. After years of working on me, I am now remarried and I have never been happier. I have a home, wonderful husband, and wonderful family who loves me just as I am. Life is still not perfect, because that is life.

My number one priorities are knowing and doing God’s will, staying away from alcohol, “carrying the message”, and doing God’s will not mine. God has taken away the “chaos” and replaced it with “serenity”.  I was not an overnight job. It took living “One day at a Time”. 

ONE DAY AT A TIME~My Will or God’s Will?

God gave me the reminder to take my life “One Day at a Time”. With all the craziness of our world and all the problems of life, it is hard to “stay in the now”.

 So, I decided to write about it, and share my experience, strength, and hope.  It has been one of the hardest things for me to learn since my recovery began twenty six years ago. I always lived in “regret” about the past, or “fear” of the future. I never lived in today.  I either allowed others to make my decisions for me, and then blamed them when things went wrong or tried to control others decisions for them. Yes, I started out doing it out of love, but then it became an “obsession”. It was as though if I focused on you, then I did not have to look at me. I have found that I have the choice to be “God-centered”, “Self-centered”, or “Other-centered”. I have lived them all! The only choice that I want today is “God-centered”. This subject kind of ties into the Step 11 post that I wrote.

Oh, by the way everyone has problems. I did not know that. I thought that a lot of other people had life a lot easier than me. Today, I break up my problems into steps. I use the twelve steps to help me find a “solution” to my “problem”. There are some things that I have no control over! We live in a sinful world, that is a Reality! We are in a “Spiritual Warfare” for our lives and our souls. I do believe that there is good and evil in this world, and sometimes bad things happen to good people. Yes, sometimes Reality sucks!

As a little girl, I was a free spirit and yearned for a world where everyone was good, nice, kind, and the world was at peace. There were no wars, or abuse, or the devil in my “dream world”. Everyone loved everyone else. As an adult, I have accepted the fact that I cannot have my way, and that life is not like that.

Today, I live in Reality! I apply the steps to any problem that I have. Step 1: What is the problem? Step 2: What are some solutions? Step 3: What are the consequences of those solutions? Step 4: Which do I choose? Step 5: What if the solution does not solve the problem? Step 6: I can choose to be angry or accept reality, and get on with my life. 

Today, I take life “One Day at a Time”, one problem at  a time, one solution at a time. I choose not to be a “martyr” and allow others to “abuse” me or “use” me, because then I get “resentments” and it messes with my serenity, besides the fact that I do not believe that is God’s will for me. Some things we are “powerless” over, but some things God wants us to do. God works through people, as well as the devil does. 

You Are Exactly Where You Are Meant To Be

Today we believe God wants you to know that … you are exactly where you are meant to be.

Trust in God that everything is exactly the way it is supposed to be.

Just as a child has to pass through a tiny channel on its way from the womb into life, so are you on your way to God.

All my life I never thought that I was where God wanted me to be, or what He wanted me to be. I lived in fear and doubt. I never thought that I was good “enough”. I never felt like I “fit in” or was “as good as” others. I became a “people pleaser”. I lived my life for others and tried be what they wanted me to be. I never had my own identity outside others. I was never happy. I reached the brink of suicide before I reached out for help and began my “recovery”. 

I began my “New Life” or Recovery on January 1, 1987, and now that I am in recovery I now have faith in God, and I know without a doubt that I am exactly where God wants me to be, doing exactly what I am doing. I am no longer living in fear and depression. I am “happy, joyous, and free”.

Still life with Bible, by Vincent Van Gogh
Still life with Bible, by Vincent Van Gogh (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Nothing happens in God’s world by mistake”. ~~source: AA, p. 417

SELF ACCEPTANCE

Self Acceptance

Today, Sally, we believe God wants you to know that …

God is glad that you are You.

Sure, we all have things we want to change, to improve about ourselves. But underneath the flesh and bone, you are an immortal and perfect soul. Always remember that.

God judges us from our insides, people judge us by our outside. 

JESUS LOVES ME!

I learned this song as a child, and I really love it today. We are to deliver the message, and they can do with it what they will. They will have to pay their consequences not us. No more EXCUSES! No matter what happens to me, I know that Jesus loves me and will NEVER forsake me. I left Him, he did not leave me. Like a gentleman, he waited for me to choose His will for my life. No one can separate us from God unless we allow them to. We must contine to “fight the good fight, and fight evil! We are in a Spiritual War for our souls! Satan works through people and comes in many forms to seek and destroy.  

Are You Helping or Hurting = Enabling??

I am re-posting a earlier post that I hope everyone who needs to see it does. I pray to “help” not “hurt”.

I woke up today thinking about the topic of “hurting” or “helping” again today. I have been praying for God to “direct my thinking” and to help me to share what I need to share to try to help others find peace and serenity like I did. I am again dealing with trying to “help” not “hurt” a close family member that I love dearly and only want to help.

My natural instinct is to try and “fix”, “control”, or “cure” them. I admit that I hate being powerless! And…that reminded me that~~I have no right to try and do my will instead of God’s will. I wanted to fix the world, but I learned that was God’s job not mine. Thank God for AA, AL-ANON and all the twelve step programs.

“Acceptance is the answer to my problem. When I stopped living in the problem, and started living in the answer, the problem went away.” (AA Big Book, page 448) ~~the quote out of the book saved my sanity and serenity many times in the last Twenty Six (26) years. 

Sally's Serenity Spot

This close to Mother’s Day, and working in the field that I do, I have really been remembering how I was taught to be a Caretaker. My Mother raised me to be a loving, kind, unselfish, independent, strong, and moral person. I grew up living in my dream world, where everyone loved everybody, and there were no mean, hateful, and abusive people.

I have tried to help others all my life. I married an abusive and unfaithful man, and tried to fix him. Of course, it did not work, because we cannot Control, Change, or Cure anyone. I had to learn the difference between helping or hurting. I had to learn the meaning of “Enabling“. Enabling is doing for someone else, what they could do for themselves. If we continue to “enable” someone, then it serves to make them irresponsible, and not be responsible for their own…

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Big Daddy Weave: “I AM REDEEMED”!

I had just heard this song a few minutes ago again, but this time it really hit me in the heart. I AM REDEEMED! It makes my heart glad to know that I am, and that I never have to live that life of Anger, Hate, Chaos, and Destruction that the life of sin produces. Praise God, from whom all blessings flow!

God’s Purpose For My Life…Writer and Genealogist

YOUR LIFE STORY

For the first time in my life I know what God‘s purpose is for my life. I know that I am living exactly where I am supposed to be, and doing exactly what I am supposed to be doing. All my life, I never felt like I “fit” anywhere. I always thought that if only I had a “different” body, or a “different” life. I was never happy with myself. I was jealous of the “confident” and “self-assured” girls and women. And…I always wished that I had bigger boobs, more friends, and was popular. 

Looking back at my childhood it makes me sad, because I realize that I “wasted” a lot of time “wishing” my life away. I lived in my fantasy world through my romance novels and books, and my Barbie doll world. I was never “happy”. I always compared myself to others, and I never measured up in my eyes. I was a beautiful little girl. I have seen photos and I was…beautiful, but I never felt it!

Today, because of my relationship with God/Jesus I have been “healed”, and I know what my purpose in life is.

Jesus wants me to sponsor and “carry the message” to the other girls and women who are still suffering and need to hear His message of Faith, Hope, and Love. Jesus does save!!

He saved me, and He will save you too, if you ask Him, and you work for it…

To Do: 1. Go to meetings, 2. Get a sponsor, 3. Read Big Book and Twelve Steps, 4. Work the steps with a sponsor.